It seems like someone I know, or barely know, or someone who just happens to blog in the same corner of the Internet as I do is wishing that she could squirt. She wants to manipulate her G-spot so she can gush like the pornos or, maybe, just so she can experience something new. I totally respect that. In fact, I once was that woman. Not any more.
You see, I can squirt now. You better believe I was excited when I first discovered it. Then, I became better at it. I excitedly relayed my experiences to my then-husband, while he was deployed. We excitedly awaited the day when I would be able to squirt with him.
But it just isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. I quickly discovered that I needed a specific kind of stimulation in order to prepare for ejaculation, and without it, my urethra would become sore, and I wouldn’t want to continue sex. Unfortunately, the kind of stimulation I needed just wasn’t the kind of stimulation he was used to giving, nor was it the kind of stimulation that I enjoyed during sex.
Enter problem number two. Stimulating my G-spot so I can squirt is not physically pleasurable. In many ways, it’s like a doctor hitting your knee with a reflex mallet: it gets the job done, but it’s all very mechanical. G-spot stimulation is the same for me. The expulsion of female ejaculate does not accompany an orgasm. It quite simply happens or, if it doesn’t, I become uncomfortable.
I may become uncomfortable if I can squirt, anyway. The texture of my ejaculate is not good for lubrication. In fact, it even has the opposite effect some days. No matter how hot it may be to squirt on someone’s cock or thighs or face, it’s just not the right kind of wet for the rapid and steady thrusting of penis-in-vagina intercourse.
Unfortunately for me—and I know that I must sound like an ungrateful wretch when I type these words—I’ve become really good at squirting and I can’t really hold back. Sex is going to stimulate my G-spot and, as much as I shudder at the idea of only being able to have sex in one way, it will become problematic if I don’t go at it in just the right way. So, do I want my sex painful or boring? Neither, thank you very much.
And that is precisely why I cannot help but roll my eyes and chuckle when people revere me for my squirting talents, and wish with all their hearts that they, too, could squirt.
ScarlettSeraph
While this is, of course, very valid, and it is important for would-be squirters to consider the different possibilities… The other side is people like me. I started squirting on accident, during sex, I didn’t even know what it was. I had to figure out how to recreate it with toys later. Now, I do it all the time, both in intercourse and masturbation, and it is fabulous for me. There is absolutely nothing about it that isn’t pleasurable. So while it may not be your cup of tea, there are others who adore it, and the ones who are wishing for it could fall into either category.
snugglewuff
The thing is, I squirt from clitoral stimulation as well as g-spot, but not from intercourse, I have to use toys. Not every time, but quite often. I’ve been doing it ever since I started masturbating. While my partners may enjoy it, I find it tedious to have to clean up all the time. Maybe if they had to wash the sheets every time it happened, they would think differently.
I don’t find it painful, but I do feel kind of put on the spot when I am asked to squirt for a partner. I’m not a pony and I don’t do tricks. And it feels like I failed them if I don’t manage to…
Tara
Possibly the most uninteresting and pointless article I have ever read.
seeker2011
It’s interesting how different our experiences can be. While I identify with some of the issues, overall I feel more positive than that about being able to squirt… although I can squirt from clitoral stimulation alone as well so the aspect of physical discomfort is less a concern. The lube trouble can be handled, the mess factor can be handled, and I wouldn’t trade the pleasure of the experience for anything, for me, it’s worth the small hassles!
urhappybunnie
It’s interesting how one woman’s experience is different from another. I myself want to be able to squirt but if it takes a lot of physical discomfort just to do so, well, I’d just be fine with what I got right now.
loriandhubby
Thank you so much for your article. I am very new to g spot stimulation and this has given me many things to think about. Maybe I don’t want to try this.
Adriana
I had no idea this published. I just now received an email for Lori’s comments. Let me say that G-spot stim may not even lead to squirting and, if it does, it may be something you enjoy. This is not an article to warn anyone away from trying because many people do enjoy it. That’s the point of this article, Tara! It is NOT physically pleasurable for me and sometimes is the exact opposite. Because almost ALL of the stories out there are ecstatic, this IS the other view, ScarlettSeraph. This is what you never hear.