Passion. I love being passionate about things, people and/or activities. If nothing else it makes them more enjoyable. Passion really falls into the category where you can have everything, from not enough of it to too much. If not kept in check, passion can become obsession, which is dangerous. I’m passionate about several things; my partner, my sexuality, my sex toy reviewing. Those are things however, that tend to already have passion involved with them. You can be passionate about cooking, gardening, environmentalism, whatever you’re interested in really.

I’m of the belief that you must have passion for your partner. At Dictionary.com most, if not all, of the entries they have for passion involve sexuality. I’ve encountered a lot of people though, who feel that in order to be passionate you have to have mind blowing sex all the time, two or three times a day. I don’t think so though.

First off, that’s a lot of sex, even for us LOL If you have sex, for whatever reason, only twice or even once a week, that doesn’t mean you’re not passionate. You could have the most life altering incredible sexual experiences with your partner, once every 10 days. That doesn’t make you less passionate about them though. It just means that you have less sex than others. And really, more than others as well.

Being passionate about your partner, in my opinion, means that you make the most of your sexuality. Whatever is involved in the sexuality of your relationship, if it involves porn, or vibrators, or urine, or blow up dolls, or whips, or cuffs, or none of that, if you make the most of that with your partner, then you’re passionate.

Passion is intense; emotional. Even if it’s a 5 minute quickie or a 45 slow loving session, it’s the emotion that’s involved, it’s what’s going on behind the scenes, in your hearts and minds. It’s loving every second of it, having that lazy, afterglow filled smile on your faces, the need to touch them and kiss them just once more as you get out of bed. Or go to sleep for that matter. It’s remembering how much they liked being caressed in that spot and making sure you do it again as soon as you can. Passion is all of these things and so much more.

Most importantly I think though, passion is making sure that all of those things are still there, no matter how frequently or infrequently you’re intimate. It’s that hot look across a room, that quick touch as you pass in the hallway. It’s wrapping your arms around them while they’re doing dishes so you can kiss the back of their neck. It’s keeping that spark alive. Passion is being passionate about that spark; nurturing it and loving it for as long as it’s there.