WOtW – Surrender

Surrender is defined by our friends at www.dictionary.com as such:  to give oneself up, as into the power of another; submit or yield.  Surrender can be such a beautiful experience.  Think about it for a moment.  How often do you find yourself pondering how it would feel to be taken without struggle?  To be overpowered by another and have your sexual fantasies brought to life?  How often do you approach your significant other and plead with him/her to take you?

Surrender can be a sweet moment and I highly recommend it once in a while to spice up your sex life.  Surrendering to your lover can heighten your sexual experience and pleasure all together.  It does not have to involve being tied down to the bed and taken violently, though that is my preferred method of choice.  It can be soft and sensual after a long day at work or a long weekend doing things with the family.  It can serve as a release from the stresses of every day life.  I find that it does, at least.

Growing up, I found that most of my fantasies revolved around surrendering me to another.  At the age of five I knew that I wanted to lose myself in someone else.   I watched Aladdin and found myself turned on by the fact that Jasmine had surrendered herself to Jafar.  Granted, she surrendered herself unwillingly, but it was still a moment that gave me butterflies.  When I began exploring my sexuality at seventeen I was introduced to the BDSM lifestyle and found exactly what I had been craving.  The ability to surrender myself to another was real.  Now, I went through some rough relationships and got myself into a few sticky situations, but I had begun my steps to finding what I was seeking: the ability to surrender myself to my partner without the worry of being abused or taken advantage of.

Surrender doesn’t just have to happen in the bedroom either.  It can involve taking the time to provide a bit more than usual for your partner in the form of doing tasks that are not normally asked of you.  This does not mean be a doormat, but rather enhance your relationship.  In little spurts, I find that surrendering me to my partner enhances and helps balance our relationship.  Then again, our relationship is a bit different dynamic wise than most relationships.  Despite that fact, though, surrendering helps me to show my appreciation for him, the things he does for me, and the time he takes out of his day and life to devote to me.  He surrenders those things to me and I reciprocate by taking care of the house and other such things.

Not everyone is comfortable yielding to his/her partner, though.  I would never recommend forcing such a thing on your partner if he/she is not completely open to the idea.

Since Valentine’s Day is coming up soon, why not try to spice things up a bit?  Experiment in the bedroom.  You never know what you can learn about your partner and about different fantasies you both might have.