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I was going to write about hardcore porn, but someone challenged me to write a well thought out reason why I hate something. So here is how I feel about Bondage and Torture in porn. While I hate the girls being treated like crap, I really just can’t even watch bondage porn. The outfits and whips and chains. There is just nothing I see that attracts me to it. Even the good looking women don’t attract me to it. To me it’s just disturbing. Don’t tell me I just don’t understand it. I have heard things like it’s a thing of trusting your partner, giving total control to another person, and some things I just can’t remember at this moment. Please read on and if you really feel you have something to add then feel free in the comments area.

But here’s the thing I really have a problem with. The pairing of sex with violence, very bad things happen when you pair certain things and sex – and violence, I am pretty sure, is one of them. Now let me give an example of how pairing sex with something else can lead to very bad things. I know of a story where a young boy was shown porn and because he didn’t understand it, he became a pedophile (sex with immaturity). Another person I know from what I understand was fucked by these two older girls when he was young and he went on to rape his brothers and sisters. Serial killers often are sexual sadists who have gone to extremes of pairing sex with violence, like Ted Bundy.

This is what is done with bondage and stuff like that. People are pairing sexual pleasure with violence and if you’re a person prone to worse action, then sooner or later you are likely to go too far. I personally think it’s kind of nuts that people will do something where they have to have a safe word. Then again people do other things like jumping out of planes for thrills and they die from that too. Choking during sex is another thing that I will never be comfortable with doing. When people die from that stuff and it’s not because the other person wants them dead, then you should really consider doing something that’s not going to kill you and possibly land your lover in jail or prison. But I guess if your lover has sexual fantasies of being raped in prison then maybe it will be a winning situation for that person.

I do understand that to certain people, for some reason, they get sexual pleasure from pain. But some people will keep pushing for more and it will not end well for these people. Personally I would worry more about sexual sadists than I would about masochists. When you’re in the moment of certain things you’re just not thinking and everything else doesn’t matter and shit can easily go too far.

I really don’t want to say too much about this. If you like bondage and you have found your limits and you’re not pushing it farther, then hey, keep doing it and have fun. Don’t ever let someone tell you what you are doing is evil or sick. But if you have found your limits and your partner keeps pushing for more or keeps going over those limits and creeps you out like fucking crazy, then get out of that relationship. Chances are that person has a really dark soul and it’s going to go to really bad places. One last thing, if you’re with someone who is a thrill seeker and keeps pushing the limits of what they can do like putting chains on nipple rings and hooking them up to the bumper of a car and tells you to drag them, you need to get that person some help. Don’t wait till it ends like the story on 1000 ways to die for a guy who shocked himself to death with a welding machine. If you’re with someone and they’re hooking themselves to a welder and they don’t realize that that high current shooting through their head is going to fry there brain, you need to knock that person out and check them into a hospital. Actually that guy could have a cat parasite called toxoplasma gondii, it causes women to be more calm and makes guys stupid. It’s a really interesting thing and I heavily suggest learning about it. All I’m saying really is be careful with S/M and bondage kind of stuff.

I am trying to alternate between things I hate and things I love. So next time I’m not sure what I will talk about. But maybe something I recently got into that I think is just funny as hell. Comedy and porn is something that seems to be pretty hard to mix. But these people have done pretty good with the videos I have seen.