My boyfriend and I had been dating for about a year at the time I decided to retire my first vibrator. It wasn’t because it didn’t work anymore, it did. It wasn’t because I hated the fact that it was a huge battery eater (which it was). It was because the darned thing started having mold spots. Little spots of white mold both on the surface of, and inside, the material of the jelly vibrator. (I’ve learned my lesson since about jelly materials, and am pleased to say that nothing I own now is made of that material.)

It was sometime in August 2010 when I made my first purchase at Eden Fantasys, and it wouldn’t be until several months afterwards that I would write my first review of that same first purchase. I didn’t really want to tell my boyfriend, at first, that I was going to be writing reviews in my spare time. We’re fairly open, but I just like to avoid conflict when I can, and I wasn’t sure how he would react to it.

I brought it up casually during a late night conversation once. He’d just gotten off work, and I was about to go to sleep, and was drifting off already when we were talking on the phone. And then I asked him what he would think if I were to start reviewing the sex toys that I had gotten in the mail.

“I get to help you try them out, right?”

Of all the things that I was expecting him to say, that probably wouldn’t have been the first thing. I expected to hear him reminding me not to mention his name or post photos of us online. Instead, he was just eager to try things out.

As of right now, I only review things that I’ve bought myself (which can get a wee bit expensive). But I like the freedom that it affords me right now, in terms of getting to decide when I get reviews up. It’s fun too, getting to try things out. As for my boyfriend? He enjoys it when I buy new things. I unbox things in front of him, and he gets very excited over the idea of trying them out. So far I haven’t gotten anything that would make him squirm, or flat out refuse to try it out, so I figured things are still going well. As for my reviews, he doesn’t seem to have much of an issue with them, as long as I don’t write out the in depth details of how we used them and what we did. But he’s always asking me when I’ll be putting in another order and when packages will be arriving.