I’ve always admired people that have open relationships. To be THAT trusting of your significant other to be honest with you and not to leave you for someone else, or to not care if they do. And then there’s the idea of being able to be with someone else, or knowing your partner is happy being with other people. Just the whole situation sounds like a win-win. It’s always something I’ve contemplated doing if I found the right person that felt the same.

Well, I found the right person that I trust to tell me the things I want to know, and that I would feel comfortable with letting them be with other people. But he doesn’t feel the same, entirely. He trusts me, but doesn’t feel comfortable with me being with other men, only women. Lucky for him, I’m bisexual and would love to be with women also, but the whole situation doesn’t exactly seem fair. So, we’ve gone this year and a half in a monogamous relationship, which is fine with both of us.

He decided he didn’t care if I was with other women, he says that women just aren’t “threatening” to him. That’s funny, because I generally prefer girls over guys. I have yet to find a girl to just be friends with benefits with. A lot seem to be put off by the fact that I have a boyfriend, which I completely understand. If I was looking for a relationship, I definitely wouldn’t want to just go fool around with
someone that was in a relationship, and I had zero chance of ever getting serious with.

Something happened, just a while ago though that completely changed everything for me in the best way possible. I started talking to a girl that I’ve known for years, but have never been too close to. She’s been pretty good friends with my boyfriend, and she told my boyfriend that she thinks I’m really attractive. After that, she and I started talking. We never did hang out, only texted a lot. We even exchanged nude pictures. It was a lot of fun talking to a girl sexually, and really excited me. My boyfriend didn’t care that I was doing that, and he supported it. He saw how happy it made me.

After a while, my boyfriend started pushing me to be in a relationship with her, which I would be totally fine with, just didn’t know if she felt the same. And there was another problem: She was married. I figured that would make it impossible for her and I to ever be together. But I guess her husband knew of all of our picture exchanges and how flirty we were with each other, and he supported it also. I guess on her end, her husband was pushing her to be in a relationship with me, as well. I was too shy to mention any of it, so I had my boyfriend talk to her for me about being together, and we somehow ended up like that. Two girls, both in relationships with other men, are in a relationship with each other. It seemed so different to me, and I was so happy to be able to be with her.

Her and I spent a lot of time together. I saw her more than my boyfriend for a while, which he was fine with. And her husband lived across the country temporarily, so that was no problem. We had a lot of fun, going out, we met each other’s families, spending the night together. Every night we spent together, though, she was too shy to ever do anything with me. I was fine with that, though. I didn’t want to push her or make her uncomfortable. This was something new for both of us. Some of our friends thought it was so weird and wrong, but most supported it and saw how much happier we both were being together. This was truly an amazing experience, but unfortunately it didn’t last too long.

When her husband moved back, he had been betraying her and lying to her, and his excuse was he thought she was going to leave him for me. He didn’t want her with me anymore. So, things ended right then for us. I was so heartbroken, it was terrible. I haven’t been through a break up in so long, and this seemed almost harder to go through than past break ups. She and I really wanted to stay friends though, and we are. She never makes time to see me, and we haven’t hung out since before the break up. Her husband and she eventually split because of all the problems they were having, and I thought that might mean she could be with me again. I really got my hopes up, but she gave a lot of different excuses as to why not to my boyfriend and I separately. I guess she just really didn’t want to be with me while I have someone else, when she doesn’t have somebody else.

I guess it is what it is, and I had fun while it lasted. I really wish her and I could be better friends though. We were great together. I would still love to be in a relationship with another girl, even a three way relationship with another girl and my boyfriend. That’s something we’ve talked about a lot, but have never met a girl that was okay with it. So I guess only time will tell what happens next with me, and for now, I’m just another monogamous girl hoping another open minded girl comes along.