I have always been open about sex. I like to think that people are comfortable talking to me. Based on the things that people have confided in me and asked me about, I’d say they are. Now that the word has spread of my new hobby doing reviews, I have been finding out how many women out there do not own sex toys.

They have questions and misconceptions. They are intimidated at the prospect of that first purchase. These are women of all age groups and different backgrounds left deprived and uninformed. There are also women who still have that old hard plastic one speed vibrator they got as a gag gift a decade ago.

Let’s face it; the sex toy industry has come far. I guess it is quite a bit to learn about. When someone is hesitant to even log onto a sex toy site, how are they to know all the great options out there? I had not realized that many women still equate sex toys with the seedy male dominated dirty book store. They have no idea that women have found freedom in their sexuality, and the ability to stock their very own toy box. It’s time for them to learn how to redefine “me time”.

These women are not uptight or prudish, at all. They talk and joke about sex. They have active sex lives. They enjoy sex. Now enters the topic of sex toys. They have questions. So my mission starts to unfold. I’m not talking about the cheesy, suburban, sex toy parties filled with silly games, and sneaking off to the back room to shamefully place your order for an overpriced vibrator that you really don’t even know if it’s going to do it for you. I was subjected to this experience once, a long time ago. It was humorous and entertaining, yet not at all informative. I ended up never even using the poorly chosen vibrator that I spent $75 on.

My new-found mission is to educate, inform, and reach out to the sex toy deprived. I have had the opportunity to learn so much, and I want to share. I will be there to answer questions. I do want to talk about more than just vibrators. Although vibrators do have an important place in my collection of toys, I plan on sharing information on how to know what lube, what cleaner, and what body parts those toys are appropriate for. I would love to do this in a seminar forum, yet I have a feeling it will end up being private consultations.

All toys are not equal. Our needs and wants are not all the same. I personally prefer toys that are made to stimulate the clitoris. Someone recently shared with me that she is more into anal penetration. Yet another woman seemed intrigued by starting out with a simple bullet vibe. I personally recently discovered the joy of the multitude of functions that some vibrators are equipped with. I have taken for granted the things I’ve learned, and the opportunity I’ve had to try out different types of products. Now it is time to spread the word, to share the joy, and to do my part in taking the stigma away.

I plan to show everyone I can, the wonderful search functions of the Edenfantasys website to help them choose something appropriate for their needs. The multitude of information and community involvement on Edenfantasys may very well become a great source for them.

Perhaps some may even decide to become EFers.