My husband and I are definitely into light bondage. All those years of light, crisp slaps on the butt were fun but just not enough for us. We like paddle play and we’re experimenting with rough play. At least, rough enough for our standards.

But then there’s slave and master play, and who thought that would be fun?

Not me. No, really. Not me!

I’ve read about others who enjoy S&M, and how they enjoy being their partner’s slave or master. “Hah, I’ll pass on that.” is what I thought initially.

Until one particular day in the not so distant past.

I had awoken my husband as I often do, with a playful hand on his fun zone. Though, really, what guy would object to be woken up in that way?

That was the first of two romps that we had that day and we both made remarks that we’d do it again that night. We were on vacation and when we got back to our cabin, we were exhausted. Although our daughter fell asleep quickly, I knew I was beat and not up for anymore play.

I have to give my husband credit though, because although he’ll admit he’s exhausted, he’ll still somehow muster up the strength for sex. How does he do it? I told him it just wasn’t in the cards, I was exhausted.

“Is that okay?,” I said… though it was more of a matter-of-fact than a question.
To my surprise, he said “No.” and gave me a command of what he wanted me to do.
I laughed and said “Yeah, okay master.”

My mistake.
He had that devious look in his eye. He liked that I called him Master.

To spare you the details, we were hooked. Slave and Master anyone? I’m game. But I get to be the Master sometimes, too.

Having fun with Slave and Master brings us through some rough waters, though. Thankfully, I have a partner who knows my situation and knows my comfort level. It can be a tricky topic and sometimes difficult to figure out how to play the game so that both parties are comfortable and entertained.

If you’re interested in any type of BDSM, communication is pretty much essential. Everyone has their own comfort level that needs to be respected. So while we don’t play nearly as rough as some people do, we’ve made our own mix that works for us. We also like to switch rolls, although some couples have designated and continuous roles. Although we keep it light and open, S&M is a huge, everyday part of some people’s lives. And that’s cool, too. Who knows, we may get to that point someday. Some people take baby steps at first.

I guess I’m fragile, I have to be sure that things won’t go past my comfort level. I don’t like to be smacked and if you pull my hair, the games over. But I like the sexy banter that accompanies our S&M play, the light tugs and playful pulls. I’m enjoying the search for wrist cuffs, collars and other items to add to our collection while reveling in the comfortable fact that I can act out fantasies with someone I trust. Otherwise, the idea of S&M would still be on the dusty shelf labeled “no way.”