All of my life, I have never been one that has had to have sex. It just wasn’t a big deal to me. Maybe my ex’s were partially to blame. I first had sex when I was 16 years old with my high school sweetheart. I didn’t have my first orgasm that was produced by someone other than me until I was 22. It took 6 years for me to meet a man that could actually get me off, which also happens to be the man I married.

Even in our marriage though, I have not needed sex. I will occasionally go through periods where I want to do sexual things every day. But even then, it wasn’t always sex. Sometimes I was good with just a bit of foreplay or oral before bed. Plus, those periods usually only last a week or two.

This all changed when I got pregnant.

During the first 16 weeks of my pregnancy, I was miserable. Therefore, sex was the last thing on my mind. However, after the first trimester ended and the morning sickness went away, it’s like I was hit with this insatiable need for all things sex. My husband and I were doing something to satisfy my needs every night…sometimes more than once a night. I was a bit scared at first, since I was carrying a child.

After a while though, it became part of our lives and I wasn’t worried at all. This continued until I was about 30 weeks pregnant. The sex slowed down considerably, but not because I didn’t want it…but because it was pretty uncomfortable. We were down to one position (me on top) that didn’t make me feel like I couldn’t breathe or that we were squishing our baby.

We still had sex then, but it didn’t last as long, and it was only about 1-2 times a week.

After I had my son, I went back into that state of “meh” when thinking about sex. I was actually kind of worried that I was only going to be really sexual when I was pregnant. You hear of so many women that become completely turned off by sex after having a baby that I was afraid that I was going to be one of those. I didn’t want to be, especially after all the fun my husband and I had had while I was pregnant.

Turns out, it must have just been due to the exhaustion and soreness of popping out an 8 pound baby. Three weeks after giving birth, I started wanting to do things in the bedroom. I couldn’t, of course, since my doctor gave me a strict “no sex for 6 weeks” order the day I was discharged from the hospital.

This didn’t keep us from fooling around though. I think my husband got more blow jobs in those six weeks than ever in his life!! I didn’t get much other than some heavy petting, nipple sucking, and whatever you can do from the waist up.

Once the six weeks were up, we were right back in the saddle. My son just turned 9 weeks old, so we’ve had three straight weeks of sex at 4-5 days a week. This is still a huge increase from before I got pregnant. We’ve began incorporating toys more often, something that we only did on occasion before I got pregnant. It’s strange how people say you will never find the time to have sex once you have a baby. We’ve had no problems! This is not to say we neglect our child, but sometimes the housework goes undone or we sacrifice sleep so that we can enjoy some bedroom fun.

It’s also strange that it took my getting pregnant to have so much fun with sex. I don’t know if that is actually the reason, but I believe it had something to do with it!