Since joining the EdenFantasys community a few months ago, I discovered a sense of satisfaction I never thought possible. My boyfriend Justin and I have explored parts of our relationship we never explored before, and found things within each other to draw us even closer.

When I originally joined, it was because a blog was holding a contest for a gift card for EdenFantasys. I never had any sex toys of my own, and didn’t know how to even come by some that weren’t outrageously expensive, or just plain scary. I ‘liked’ the Facebook page, and that’s when the fun started. The daily posts intrigued me to no end. I found myself exploring the site regularly and even checking out SexIs and EdenCafe. The array of toys had me gawking for hours.

I didn’t win the gift card, but I did make my first purchase not long after. It was very simple, just a book and a toy. The news feed on facebook had mentioned using a code for a discount, so I did that for the book, and even got the toy for free for sharing EdenFantasys with my friends. Being in Canada meant it took a little over a week to get here, but before long it arrived and I was so excited. Justin didn’t know what to think. The toy was just a small blue bullet, and the book was for positions. It wasn’t overly scary for my first purchase of this type.

We read over the book that night and got a fair bit of inspiration from it. Most of the positions we had tried as the extent of our sexual exploration. But this book offered variations we hadn’t tried, or even thought of in some cases. I was hooked, of course. I was scouring blogs to try to win a gift card, and one day noticed a little post on facebook. Write for EdenFantasys, and get gift cards to do it. I didn’t know what to write about at first so I just wrote the first thing on the top of my head. I started with one submission and got my gift card code the next day.

I spent days on the site agonizing over which toys, books, items, etc I should get with it. Justin sat with me and picked out some things he liked, and I picked out a few things. Using discounts and deals, I made my second purchase, which included five toys for women, men and couples. We couldn’t wait to get our parcel. I was so anxious for more that after a few days I sent in three more submissions. One wasn’t quite appropriate, but I received two more gift cards from the other articles. These were like gold in my inbox. I spent days putting things in my cart, taking things out, switching things around, etc. It was so hard to decide what to get, and what we would be ok with. We were new to the idea of toys joining us in our bedroom antics, so I didn’t know what would be best to start out with, without scaring us away from the idea altogether. We’re a very open-minded couple. But were we ready for something like this?

When I finally put the order through, there was one book and mostly apparel this time. Justin was as eager as I was for this one. I got a dark blue corset dress for my birthday that was very burlesque style, but I was lacking accessories. I got stockings and gloves from EdenFantasys to compliment my new dress. This new attire was more of a bedroom outfit, so it excited both of us to think about it. Although we hadn’t had toys for sexual pleasure, I did have many costumes that we just loved. We didn’t role play, per se, but rather enjoyed each other’s reactions when I wore a sexy outfit to tease him with, and my having the confidence to do it. I didn’t try on the corset dress, however, until the parcel had arrived and I had everything to go with it. The accessories I had ordered were perfect, like they were made to go with the dress. We were thrilled at how well the outfit suited.

We received the second and third parcels within a few days of each other, and didn’t even open the boxes right away. We took the clothing items out since we were already comfortable with them, but the toys ended up in a designated bag I had hung on a hook in our room. Justin had never had any sex toys and neither had I, so we were anxious but also very intimidated. I was braver than he was, and tried a few of my solo toys at my own discretion, only to learn later that Justin had done the same with the toys exclusive to him.

It didn’t take long before we were comfortable with our solo toys on our own, but there was the matter of the couples toys. One was a cock ring. We didn’t know how to use it, or how it would feel for us. We had read the reviews by other members and the product information that was provided, and that helped a great deal. Justin was more intimidated than I was, because he would be the one wearing it. But I didn’t know how it would feel either, so had my own version of fears. We kept meaning to try it, but found ourselves putting it off night after night.

The night we finally did try the cock ring is so hard to describe. It just happened more or less. I had a little routine of getting out of the shower, and while in my bedroom getting dressed or drying my hair, I’d take out one of the toys and get a little better acquainted. The kids were in bed, and Justin happened to walk in while I was getting friendly with my bunny. He took the ring out of its box, slipped it on, and the bunny was completely forgotten. The ride was wonderful and definitely unforgettable. It was so much more than we had ever expected, and we enjoyed every moment of it.

We have used the solo toys, and couples toys, on our nights of lust together since. We are more comfortable with each other than we ever were, and have found a new side of our relationship that I am glad is no longer dormant. None of this would have been possible if EdenFantasys didn’t sponsor giveaways, discounts, deals, and all the other wonderful things they offer. I found a community where I can be myself and talk about the taboo of sexuality without being awkward. I found products that enhanced my sex life in a way I never thought was ever possible. And I have found an outlet for some of my writings that I could never have shared anywhere else. Not only do I want to thank the community of EdenFantasys, but I know Justin is more than thrilled that I have found it as well. Thank you to everyone! This was definitely not a cold winter. *wink*