When I discovered I was pregnant, one my fears was not being able to lose the baby weight relatively fast after giving birth. During my Ob visits, I often checked out the other pregnant ladies’ physiques. I knew early on that I did not want to have a C-Section, therefore elective C-section was not an option. Since I had made this decision I felt no need to read about C-sections on the various pregnancy books I often read. This section was simply skimmed through or skipped.

Boy was that not smart! After a twenty five hour failed inducement, I was taken into the operating room for a C-section. I am very happy to have a wonderful baby girl, and after having her, I feel like she is my world, and since she was born I put her needs ahead of mine. Now, being in a relationship with the addition of my baby has become challenging to keep that spark up. It’s difficult; since I find myself relying on my partner to do everyday house chores, baby care and personal care. During my first weeks after being discharged from the hospital, I relied on my mate to act as a caregiver rather than a romantic partner. After long working days for him, taking care of his two girls, plus sleep deprivation has left no room for romance. Being in this circumstance was beginning to put my young relationship in jeopardy.

Although, l have always believed that a relationship is based on love, care, and just being there for one another, sexuality should not be ignored. I started to comprehend why so many young couples became single mothers. I remembered a famous quote, “The mind is willing but the body is weak and bruised” from Futurama. My partner used to say that to me prior to my pregnancy. Now, I am the one needing to say it back to him – only it’s literal. My hospital’s discharge orders advised no vaginal intercourse until six weeks, and my doctor’s clinic discharge orders were the same.

Fortunately snoo snoo, isn’t the only thing on the menu. Ah the array the things to do on the book. I feel so empowered that from a young age I had a healthy view of my body, knew the importance of diet and exercise, and of course spa pampering does a body good. Sport’s illustrated‘s Swimsuit Issue is my inspiration. I was also equipped with knowledge about sex and the chemistry behind love. Cumming makes everyone happy and in love. And you know what? Even a post-partum woman, with a newborn and sleep deprivation can accomplish it. Ladies don’t forget there is such a thing as oral sex and erotic touch.

Changing things up, trying new things, and communication was the key to keeping my relationship strengthened. Although, I’ll admit I was a bit self-conscious about my stretch marks and my weak belly from the pregnancy — I didn’t let this stop me from enjoying my partner. I know that these things are temporary. There are treatments and exercises that will eventually make me look better, but in the meantime I’ll keep on nursing to not only help my baby but burn many calories. Actually, I am very happy with my body — not only did I lose the baby weight but some additional weight, as well.

Five weeks have passed by, and I feel delighted that the quote I wrote about earlier might just be reverting once again. I could not be happier.