Oh, Oh, Oh, Ooooooo… I’m talking about the holy grail for women, and possibly men… Multiple Orgasms.

Multiple Orgasms are orgasms that happen rapidly, one right after another, sometimes seconds apart. Despite popular belief woman aren’t the only one who can do this either. Men can have multiples as well, although it takes practice, but we’ll get to this later.

We’re going to talk about the ladies first, and if you want to give your woman multiples then that’s how it should be in the bedroom too. Foreplay is very important, women need to be warmed up. We are kinda like cars in this respect, in the middle of winter you can’t go out start your car and expect it to go. You have to give it some time to warm up and get things lubricated. Same goes for the ladies. Don’t just dive for the genitals, play with her breast, or tease other erogenous zone. For example, on some women the back of the knees, ears, neck and/or inner thighs are very sensitive.
Now, if you don’t already know, learn your way around the vulva, clit, and labia. Don’t think of the clit as a little bump to be man handled. It’s the heart of a complex pleasure producing network. With over 8,000 nerve fibers, the clit has more of them than any other part of the female body. Think about that next time, she asks you to play with it.

Ok let get on to some techniques.

In the missionary position, while kneeling or sitting between her legs, use the tip of your penis to barely penetrate her vaginal entrance. Then stay awhile, let it rest just inside her. Press your thumb against her clit and gently flick it, as you penetrate with short, shallow thrusts. Another way is to press the shaft of your penis against her clit and thrust gently between the folds of her labia without entering her. You want to get her into the 90 second window. This is the minute and a half before she has her orgasm. While she’s in this window, position her on top with her clit against your pubic bone at the base of your penis. This will achieve the ideal amount of pressure to stimulate her clit against your penis.

No matter what position your in, keep in contact with the clit. And for goodness sake DON’T STOP. There’s nothing more frustrating than almost reaching it, then the guy stops. She’s not going to reach multiples unless you keep going. The main reason many women don’t have multiples is that the stimulation stops after number one. Keep going! Keep stimulating the clit, and she’ll keep having them.

Now I know why you guys have kept reading, probably some women too. You want to know how men can have multiple O’s.

So you want to know how to last longer in bed and have multiple orgasms? You can experience the orgasm roller coaster just like women and not ejaculate. Most men focus on the cumming and not on the lovemaking process. They also believe that if they can regain an erection soon after cumming, and cum again in a certain amount of time, that makes them multi-orgasmic. Sorry guys, that’s wrong. Just like with the ladies multiple orgasms, men can come in quick succession. So a guy who is truly multi-orgasmic will not lose his erection until after the final orgasm. This kind of orgasm was taught by older woman to younger men back in the 1800s, in Oneida Community. I found this really neat since I live about an hour or two from Oneida County. It was a form of early birth control called “Male Continence“ and it seemed to work. During the time it was implemented, from around 1848 to 1868, only about 40 children were born to a community of around 250.

Ok I hear you, enough with the history lesson. How do I do it? Well, first you’re going to need to get in touch with your body (yes pun intended).

There is a point near ejaculation called the “point of no return”. At this time guys will experience genital contractions lasting for about 3-5 seconds. These are pelvic orgasms, and might feel like a fluttering or mild release of pressure. When approaching this “point of no return” the object is to NOT crest over and cum, but to decrease stimulation, just enough to gain control over your arousal rate. Control can be achieved by squeezing the PC muscles or Kegels. These are the muscle that allow you to stop going pee mid-stream.

Learning to control these muscles is essential to learning how to have multiples. There are two ways to located the PC muscles, the first one I mentioned above, by stoppping going mid-stream. The other is less thrilling for some, stick your finger in your rectum and try contracting your PCs, making sure to keep your other muscles relaxed. You’ll know when your doing it because your finger will feel pressure. If you think you need to strengthen your PC muscles try these exercises. Quickly clench your PCs and hold for 10 seconds, and then release taking a 10 second break. Perform 3 sets then take a 30 second break. Clench and unclench for 5 seconds with 5 second breaks in between. Do this 10 times in a row. Tighten your PCs for 30 sec and release for 30 seconds – 3 time in a row. Repeat the first step and then your done. This can be done any time, any where. Nobody will even know. Ladies you know what I’m talking about, so help the guys out.
Also you know how some guys can use it as a towel rack? Yeah, these will help in that department too.

Second step: practice makes perfect. Try it on your own at first, so you can learn things like your “point of no return”. Learn how to use your PC muscles to stop your cumming. If you can’t, then you may need some more exercise. Once you have an idea of when your “point” is then bring in your partner, I’m sure she/he will be happy to help you practice.

Remember, both ladies and gents… relax, enjoy, and over all, have fun.