I am making an odyssey into the murky waters of different toy materials. I am excited and I have to admit to a little bit of trepidation. This is something that in my household was sneered at, only oversexed sluts had ‘sex toys’. Sometimes I worry about whether I’ll have the time to use all these toys! Will my partners think I am silly? I think that is a non-issue, they already think I am insane…and cute. I keep explaining to them that I am NOT Cute! I am sexy! They nod their heads and laugh, then hop around after I kick them in the shins. >.<

I have discovered that I enjoy playing with myself, something that has taken years for me to be comfortable with. I enjoy taking a bit of time for myself and making love to myself. I think this is a necessary thing for everyone since you truly can’t love someone else unless you love yourself. If you cannot accept that you are love-able then you won’t ever truly believe that you are loved. Likewise if you don’t know how you like to be touched you can’t show someone else. As we’ve  established though my other articles, your partner cannot read your mind, so if you don’t tell them what you like (or better yet show them) you won’t get absolute full enjoyment out of sex play. It will torture your relationship and it’s so avoidable!

So ok I decided that it was silly for me to be afraid to walk into a store and buy a product that is meant to pleasure my body. Sigel drove me to the local sex toy store on the same day I discovered EdenFantasys, I was impatient and wanted the toy before I lost my nerve. I don’t regret it except that the selection at this particular store is geared more to horny men than women. I chose a jelly rabbit, not because of any tv show (I have never watched Sex in the City) but because it looked cool. I had an old rubber dong and a rubber sheath/vibrator combo both from Doc. Johnson so I felt comfident that my new toy would be fine as it was from the same manufacturer. I didn’t know anything about lube or cleaning the toy so I didn’t buy any of that stuff. We giggled all the way home, then called Arch to show him my new friend. He rolled his eyes and wondered why I needed a fake cock with two at my disposal…I told him the rabbit doesn’t call me cute. >.<

I kept having the same burning feeling after using the rabbit as I did after using my dong and the rubber sheath but I never put to gether that it might be the lack or lube or the materials. I just figured that I was thrusting them too hard. It wasn’t until I got into reviewing for EF that I learned that sometimes people can have adverse reactions to certain materials, and that lube is a necessity. I was washing my toys, another necessity I learned all about at EF, and I carried the rabbit in the crook of my arm against my bare skin. I removed the toy and noticed that I was breaking out in red patches which quickly became hives! I was allergic to the materials in the toy. With the other arm I tested the dong and sure enough another breakout! I didn’t get any reaction to the hard plastic vibrator so I decided to request products that were rated at or higher than hard plastic.

Suddenly I could thrust to my hearts content and not experience the awful side effects. Toy playing became fun for me on that day and I’ve never looked back.

Since then I have had the joy of experiencing: rubber, TPR, silicone, glass, and elstomed. I have come to adore toys that are easy to clean, resilient and filling. I am looking forward to trying aluminum, stainless steel, wood, cyberglass, leather…so many new things to try! There are even toys made from stone and life like materials that mimic real skin! I feel like a stranger in a strange world but I think I’ve finally found a place I belong.

One of the nicest effects of this whole journey is my new found confidence that has made me attractive to my guys in a whole new way, it’s made me attractive to myself as well. I have learned that I am a dynamic, likeable person who has value. Something my upbringing and early life had failed to teach me. For all those people who believe that testing toys and reviewing them has no value except to make money for the business that employs them, I challenge them to try it for themselves. In the end they might decide that they like what they see in the mirror, if not? Well they had a hell of a fun time for however long they tried!

One last word before I wander off to the bedroom to show Arch how to use his new Fleshlight, if you notice that playing with certain toys causes pain or discomfort afterward be sure that you are cleaning the toy correctly, for most materials the soap you use to clean your genitals will work fine. You know that won’t cause discomfort already. Then try using a condom over your favorite toy, if this helps the discomfort you might need a different material. Above all else make sure you have plenty of good quality lube on hand, and that you use it!

I hope each and everyone of you has a safe, amazing sexual odyssey of your own, and I hope it brings wonderful things into your life, like mine has!