Dear Lady,

We wanted to write and share our thoughts with you, because as your wardrobe, your looks are a reflection on us. We see you as a “big beautiful curvaceous woman” but you only see yourself as “plus size” and consider it a bad thing. It isn’t a bad thing though, and we have some things we want to share with you.

First of all, stop wearing dark colors all the time. Yes, black makes you look slimmer and dark colors help too. But for crying out loud woman, you need a bit of life in your wardrobe. Did you know that your best colors are really blues and reds and purples? We know you look at them longingly while you’re out in the store, but then you go and buy dark colors because you feel you can’t wear the colors you want to wear. STOP THAT! You are drawn to those colors because they will look good on you. Go ahead and wear dark pants and skirts if you must – but please – bring some color up next to your face. Trust us – people will be less likely to notice your butt or hips if they’re drawn upward to your face.

And speaking of clothes — stop buying cheap quality clothes because you feel you don’t deserve better. That’s a lie. You deserve nice things too. Stop shopping at only the discount stores. If you have to shop online — that’s ok. It’s ok to go to nicer stores and find pretty things on sale too. We’re not saying you have to spend a fortune. But buy nicer quality clothes because they’ll fit you better, and you’ll feel better about yourself.

Did you know that you can even pay FULL PRICE for something for yourself and the world won’t end? It’s true — find one item that you really love and pay full price. Trust us — every time you put it on you’ll remember that feeling of “I’m worth the full price”, and you’ll love to wear that item. Who knows — maybe someday you’ll even be able to buy clothes that aren’t on sale?

While we’re at it — we have a few more tips for you.

Stop buying clothes that are too big for you because you don’t like a part of your figure. Sometimes it’s nice to show some curves — even if it is your breasts. We were so proud of you when you broke down and bought that size 20 shirt that you loved when you normally buy size 22/24. That even made you brave enough to try on the 16/18 top, (ok…so it was black) and you realized that you were buying clothes TWO SIZES too large for your tops. We practically jumped for joy when that little black number made it into the closet. WAY TO GO! Now keep it up — only remember — colors look better on you than black.

In addition — throw out all that old underwear and those yucky bras and get some that aren’t “granny-style”. You know what we mean — even your granny would probably be embarrassed to wear them! Get yourself some comfortable undergarments that support you and some pretty panties or comfortable panties that make you feel like a woman. You’re not a clown or elephant or any of those other labels you use for yourself.

Speaking of undergarments — get at least one piece of lingerie that makes you feel sexy. Do it for you — not for him. You deserve to feel pretty and sexy because you really are that way deep inside.

Well — those are our tips for you. We’re happy to see you’re wearing a tiny hint of makeup now and some perfume, and we’re thrilled to see that you even spent money and bought yourself quality shoes for your new walking program. Sure they were over $100, but they were an investment in your health.

Just don’t forget us — some of us need to be “retired” as we’ve gotten holes or stretched too much.  Some of us would prefer to move on to another woman who needs our large sizes instead of hiding your figure. And others of us are just waiting for you to realize that we’ll make you look pretty if you just add us to something with color.

We believe in you – now believe in yourself.

Sincerely,
Your Clothes