I have always had an open view of porn. Even when I was in high school I did. I went to an all girl’s Catholic high school, and almost all the girls there thought that porn was demeaning to women. They really felt that most of the porn actresses were forced into doing it. Even back then, I knew better than that. I knew just how much they would make, and that there were other women doing different things in the porn world than just having sex on camera.

As time went by, I started to meet people from the porn world. Mostly actors and actresses, but there were a few directors, film makers, and people that would run porn sites that have since been taken down.

I’m not talking about mainstream vanilla porn actors. (Not that there is anything wrong with that at all.) These are the women that do the explicit art nudes or play off of some kind of fetish, from pony play to goth girl to balloon fetish, and anything else you can think of. The actors that I was meeting are the guys that are in the hardcore fetish porn where there are actual bones breaking. So these were people that were all over the board in the kink world. A lot of these people became my good friends.

I had wanted to get into porn, but I knew that I didn’t really have much of a chance. I’m too heavy to do most porn, and too skinny to do the whole BBW thing. I’m too old to do most of it and not old enough to be a cougar. I’m right in the middle, so I just didn’t fit into any nitch. So I put it out of my head for years.

A few months ago, I was sitting in a hot tub with my girlfriend, who I don’t get to see near as much as I would like, talking. She was telling me that in a week she was going to be doing a kinky porn shoot with a photographer friend of hers. As we talked she started to tell me that she needed someone to do the shoot with her and asked if I would join in. I jumped at the idea before she even went into details.

The short of it is that the photographer is actually a sports photographer. When he would shoot porn, he was treating it more like a sporting event than trying to make things titillating for the viewer. It was more about documenting the event than making hardcore porn. It was more about the art in the moment than anything.

And it really was more about making art. We spent an hour doing photos as art nudes with a lot of humor thrown in for kicks. Nothing says silly like men in bunny suits serving tea to two nude women. The photographer just let the two of us do what we normally do, and he just documented it. There was no directing at all. He would only stop us when he needed to change the card in his camera. I know that this is not what most porn is like. But I loved the freeness that was happening with this artist. Besides, the thousands of photos were amazing. My girlfriend and I are planning on working with that photographer again soon.