Intimate Piercing

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I am always amazed and delighted how often the blogosphere echoes things that I am thinking about or discussing with my Others, or events that are happening in my life. The other night, after visiting my local piercer, was one such time. I had come home, tired and a little tender and just wanting to veg out and catch up on blogs. Lo and behold, there was the post about play piercing by Red. All in all it was an excellent piece, and makes me look forward to my own play piercing experience that I will (hopefully) be experiencing in January some time. But what made me really sit up and pay attention (even as sitting up made me wince) was the similarity in emotional reaction to play piercing that she spoke of to my own experience with permanent piercing earlier that evening. That afternoon, after months (maybe years) of thinking about it, I had finally gotten my labia pierced, and I couldn’t have been more pleased with the results. Not just the look of the piercings, but with the physical experience itself.

In writing this, I tried to decide if what I had done, if piercing, in and of itself, was a kink activity. The only answer I can come up with is, in my own situation, “yes and no.” There are plenty of non-kinky people that get pierced, because it looks good, or enhances their sexual pleasure. There are people that don’t like pain, in particular, but enjoy being pierced. There are many others who do enjoy that bite of pain that a needle penetrating flesh brings. And there are still others that enjoy it for entirely other reasons, for the spiritual or mental sensation. And yes, there are some that do it for another person, because that person, a Top or Dominant, told them to do it.

My reasons are all right in the middle.

I already have a vertical clitoral hood piercing, and have had it for years, having gotten it done when I was with my ex. When we split, I took it out, but realized recently that I missed my little jeweled hood ring, and had it reinserted. While I was there, I spoke to the piercer about getting my labia pierced. I had always wanted to get my labia pierced, but my ex didn’t like the look, and frankly I was afraid of the pain. Then, a year ago, I met my Owner, who loves women with piercings. It seemed only a matter of time before I’d begun to think about it seriously again. Of course, it was a matter of a long time—over a year, to be exact. It took me that long to get up the courage.

I did a lot of research in that year. I looked at a lot of pictures, talked to other women who had been multiply pierced, talked to local piercers and read up on healing times, and placement, and what I might expect in the experience and afterward. Finally, when my Owner went out of town over the holidays, I realized it was time. I was going to surprise him with a very special Christmas present when he got back. What I didn’t expect was the intense physical and emotional reaction I had to the experience of the piercing itself.

Nor how beautiful I would find the piercings.

I know that last sounds odd. Why get it done if I didn’t think they’d be beautiful? The reason was simple: my hood ring, to me, is delicate, the very epitome of femininity. I don’t know why I have that feeling about it, but I do. I had initially wanted to get outer labia piercings, as these too, seem feminine and somehow, delicate. But in my reading , and in discussing my lifestyle with my piercer, I realized that the longer healing time, and the placement of the outer labia piercings, especially rings like I wanted, might not be ideal for someone of my activity level (I am a runner.) And so I chose the inner labia, but felt that I was perhaps trading beauty away for the practical. It was an acceptable compromise—I still liked the look of the inner labia piercings in pictures I had seen—just not as much as the outer.

Boy was I surprised when I took the mirror from my piercer’s hand and looked down at what I had done. “They’re beautiful!” I exclaimed. She just laughed. She couldn’t know how surprised I was. But she did look over at my boyfriend, who had accompanied me, after I kept looking at them, and said, “You’ll never get her away from the mirror now.” It was a grand moment.

But back to the piercing itself.

I had recently taken part in a hook pull at Kinky Kollege, a kink convention in Chicago. While not technically a kink activity, the hook pull elicits many of the same ecstatic emotional responses that many masochists and submissives have during pain play. So I was not unfamiliar with the emotions that needles piercing flesh can bring out. At the time of the hook pull though, I chalked up my own deeply emotional, almost spiritual, reaction to some recent upheaval in my life and to sharing the event in a profoundly intimate way with my partner. While I did not enter that same ritual space during my labia piercing, I was surprised to find myself similarly moved by the physical experience of it.

It also turned me on incredibly. But that’s another story, maybe one for my own blog.

What is it about the act of being pierced that I enjoyed? From a purely physical perspective, piercing is a quick high, as Red notes in her piece. Sharp and intense, a pain pop that sends the endorphins rushing into your bloodstream, but then subsides just as quickly. (Much like wax play or singletailing.) But more than that, there is something visceral and deep about the feeling of the needle pushing into and through the flesh. The slide through the barrier of skin and into me. It elicited a euphoria that took me hours to come down from. I remember feeling something similar, although not as intense, when being tattooed.

A pleasant side effect that I have noticed is that the rings themselves elicit pleasure. I had heard of some women enjoying the sensation of having their inner (and outer) labia stretched, or pulled on, during sex, and some said that these sensations were enhanced by the piercings. Still other women reported pleasure as the rings or bars rubbed against the opposite labia. When I was trying to decide whether to get the inner or outer labia pierced, I experimented on myself, and to my surprise, found that I, too, quite enjoyed the pulling and stretching feeling. And after the piercing, I have found to my joy that this has been enhanced as well.

I am still in the initial healing period for my piercings. I am still quite tender, they itch and pinch a bit, and (surprisingly to me) I am very bruised. The no-sex rule is beginning to make me crazy, too. But I am in love with my piercings already, and have a strong suspicion that I will enjoy play piercing just as much. I was also wonderfully surprised at how much my boyfriend loves the look of the piercings.

And I can’t wait til my Owner gets home tomorrow and sees his “present.”