I have really enjoyed doing sex toy reviews. There have been times when I have chosen a review item under the assumption that I would have a partner. I am monogamous on my end of an on and off again relationship. I have since learned to be sure to choose items I can utilize on my own. When I am in denial, I often choose the wrong type of item, and end up not being timely on reviews. I was able to find some humor in the situation when I had a new strap-on during a time I had no one to use it on. What was I to do? I suppose one option would have been to just strut around the house in it. I will admit, I did enjoy lubing up the detachable penis and jacking myself off in the mirrror. I did end up contacting Edenfantasys and informing them why I was going to be late on the review. This is not a situation I want to be in again.

I want to point out that if you and your partner are having sexual issues in your relationship, adding the pressure of needing to incorporate a toy is way too much pressure. It can cause resentment on the non-reviewer, as well as them understandably questioning your intentions when you are the initiator. I have found this to be a concern of mine, even when things are going well.

I rarely want to have sex with myself when there are such issues going on. Ideally the incorporation of sex toys would be a plus. Depending on the issues, it tends to not work like that. A vibrator, other sex toys, or even naughty outfits do not have an influence on deep emotional issues. Orgasm however is a great release, and provides a temporary lift in mood. Therefore I should be having more sex with myself. I should do nice things for myself. Orgasms are nice.

I would like to take it easy on my “obligations” to review items by focusing on the one free item a month. One item will at least ensure that I get laid at a minimum of once a month, even if it’s a matter of taking care of business on my own. It is just so tempting to add onto that order. I would also like to look at this situation as an opportunity to expand my participation in the Eden Community. This is also a good time for me to focus on writing, both here on Eden Café, as well as elsewhere. The best way to hone my writing skills is to read, and read, and read some more. I also feel that this will get me in the habit of being better at spending time supporting my fellow EFers and bloggers. The members of this community deserve that loyalty.

I recently wrote a post on Eden Café titled, “When is it Time to Take a Break?”. I had a draft where I wrote about taking a break from all online activities. I decided to revamp the article when I realized I prefer the above mentioned options instead. What would I do with my time? I don’t have cable. I don’t have kids (both by choice). I don’t have a social life or a sex life.