In the world today people are coming and going constantly, whether it be to pick up the kids from soccer practice, or rushing to work so you aren’t more than 15 minutes late. Some mornings we barely have the time to kiss our significant other goodbye, and some nights when we come home we’d honestly rather sleep than waste our precious Z’s on a quickie.

But really, how do you make time for sex when you have such a busy life? Well, my first answer for you is, to not give up. There are ways to make the time, but it isn’t always easy. Sex, just like any other aspect to a healthy relationship, requires time and effort. Not just a little bit of effort either. No matter what age you are, this problem is totally normal. Everyone hits a dry spot from time to time, but the good news is that there is a way out.

Here are a few tips that I hope will be of use for you and your partner. A few of them may sound silly, but I guarantee they will work out for you in the long run, if not right away. You can try them all at once, or one at a time. However, I recommend trying them all slowly over time, or a few in combination,  to see what works for you.

1.  Keep a daily/weekly planner – You were required to do this in middle school, and you probably have one for work. Now it’s time to make one for your personal life. Start by simply writing down what you know you have to do over the week. Write down your cousin’s 21st birthday party, and even write down the hours you’ll be working. If you need to grocery shop, find an open space or two and schedule that time for shopping.

After you’ve written down your week’s plans, look at all the open spaces. Simply ask your significant other what times he/she has off during the upcoming week. The time slots that match up are the time slots where you need to go for the gold! Those are the days that you need to see if someone can cover that last hour at work, or see if your sister can babysit the kids for a night. Try everything you can to make time for you and your sweetheart.

2.  Stay motivated, and keep your partner motivated – Once you’ve found out when you have time to slip in some love-making, get yourself motivated. Maybe stop by the lingerie shop, or purchase a sexy outfit from EdenFantasys to spice things up. EdenFantasys also has some really awesome kits for a special night, such as the Weekender Kit by KamaSutra, or the Sweet Heart Chocolate Box Kit by KamaSutra. These little things will get you excited, and keep you motivated for a long-needed night of intimacy that lies ahead for you and your lover.

3.  Get distractions out of the way – When you have some spare time to yourself, get the distractions out of the way. If you know your lover is constantly upset about the dishes not being done before bed, get them done while he/she is away at work. If the kids are always walking in, see if a family member or friend can babysit them for the night. The faster you can get things done, the better – leaving more time for you and your significant other to have sex.

4.  Don’t overwork yourself – Take another look at your schedule. Do you see any tasks that can afford to wait until the following week? Are there any tasks from the next week that are easy enough to get done today, rather than next Saturday? Feel free to make any appropriate switches. Get things done today that can get done without wearing yourself out, but if you’re already feeling tired, try to move things around in your schedule without cutting into your intimate time.

Take naps, if you have the time during the day. Even if it’s only for 30 minutes to an hour, it can benefit you greatly and increase your energy later in the day. If you’re planning to make love during the day, get your rest at night, to leave you energized for your following work day. I cannot “stress” this tip enough – no pun intended – overworking yourself leads to unnecessary stress, and will take away from a good night of sex in some cases.

5.  Do not get upset if it doesn’t work out – You will try, and you will fail from time to time. Maybe even a little more than expected. Simply keep working at it, and remember not to be upset with yourself or your partner if things don’t work out. Don’t throw a fit when the sex wasn’t as good as you wanted it to be. Don’t roll over and make dirty comments when your partner says he/she is too tired. If they get mad at you, hold back as much as you can, and try to explain how you really meant to try.

Fighting never benefited anyone, so keep that in mind. There’s other ways to enjoy your love besides having sex. If you know there’s a night where things just won’t work out, rent a movie and enjoy a lovely night on the couch cuddling with your lover as you watch a romantic comedy… Or a horror movie, if that’s what you’re into!

6.  Talk to your doctor – Unfortunately, as some of us age, our sex drive ages as well. We may not be as interested in sex as we used to be, and some of us lose all interest completely. This is normal, and nothing to be ashamed of. Your doctor can simply recommend a vitamin supplement such as AZO Intimacy, or put you on hormone therapy to help increase your libido. This can also help your lack of energy, which surprisingly plays a huge part in your sex life.

7.  Talk to your partner – Before you do any of the things above, sit down and talk to your partner. Don’t do it at the dinner table, but do it in the bedroom. Don’t whine, cry, or get upset. Simply talk about it. Explain that you are trying several things to help improve your love life in the bedroom, and ask them if they can help as well. Maybe you just want them to acknowledge that you are trying, and if that’s the case, talk to them about that.

Talking is key to fixing any problem in a relationship. You’d be surprised just how one conversation can change everything! You may be very pleased with the results you get from just have one conversation with your loved one.

These are some of the best tips out there, and if you put effort into practicing them, you will notice a huge change in not only your sex life, but your entire relationship. You will be able to manage your time better, learn what works best for you and your partner, and finally get back to enjoying sex like you were once able to. Every healthy relationship needs a little bit of regular intimacy to function correctly, and it’s never too late to start up again!

Happy Love Making!