I've been doing my Holiday shopping a bit early this year. This year has been a completely different shopping experience from years past. For one, I actually have a bit of disposable income compared to the previous years. For another, I now do sex toy reviewing and receive giftcards which makes giving sex toys a possibility.
For this reason, I've been seriously considering giving my sister a vibrator for the Holidays. I have it all planned out in my mind. I'll wrap it up like a regular present, but I'll tell her she should open it in private away from other people. In the package, I'll include a note, a “friendly” looking vibrator, a pouch for the toy, and some batteries for it. In the note, I'll try to explain my reasons for buying it:
“Hey Sis. I know this is going to seem awkward, but I promise, I'll never bring up what's inside this package unless you speak about it first. It seems really weird, but women's sexuality is such a prominent aspect in our modern culture, but it's never portrayed as women enjoying themselves. It's always portrayed as the woman being receptive or doing well by pleasuring the man she's with. I feel like this standard is wrong – women should feel more comfortable experiencing pleasure. For that reason, whether you choose to keep this or trash it (I'll never ask.), I figured you at least deserved to know that this option exists – even on your tiny college budget. Feel free to ask me questions. – Kayla”
In fact, I've already bought all of those for her present. I settled on the “Inked” vibe from CalExotics which I bought here from EF. She loves tattoos, so it seemed like a good choice. But even with all of this planned out in my mind, I'm still really hesitant. Every mention I've made to sex or having safe sex has always been met with her feeling awkward or calling me weird. What's to make her think differently this time? What if this present is one that could make this bad between us?
I do feel strongly that every woman should feel comfortably discussing sex (especially when you consider how “open” males are about this) but at the same time, I know not everyone agrees with me. I try not to make people uncomfortable with a discussion that they may not be up for, but at the same time, if we don't push people's boundaries a bit, nothing will change. So here's to hoping that this is a good change for my sister's life – even if we never actually talk about it.
aly3360
I'm very glad I don't have to worry about that with my sisters. They're all very open and sex toys would be a welcomed gift (found that out by mentioning edens review program which they both happily signed up for haha). I really hope the gift goes over well with your sister. I think it's a great idea and definitely worth a shot
Sea of Neptune
I actually gave my sister a vibrator for the first time. I never really talk to her about these things besides her or I making it an offhand comment from time to time. I know she uses them because she recognized the address from EdenFantasys when I would get packages when we used to live together. LOL.
To make it less awkward I used the term "massager" instead of vibrator. I feel like that helped a bit. Let me know how the gift giving goes!
airplane
My mother is a little older, but has always been very, very open about sexuality. She set me up with my gynecologist, who I have had now for a good 5-6 years now, set me up on birth control, and who has always been nothing but helpful in the sex department.
But my younger sister is a whole different being. My mom has found her completely unapproachable when it comes to sex. She can’t bridge the gap from mom to sex educator like she did with me so easily. My sister is much more closed off, and hostile, about learning about sex. Refusing to go a gyno, refusing to talk to anyone about anything, despite staying out late and going on many long adventures with various boys, which seems risky at best, life-altering at worst.
Thus, I have been put in charge of my sister’s sex education,
A vibrator is something I have been thinking of buying her, but I remember being embarrassed when my mother offered to purchase me one (oh, how I wish I had taken her up on the offer, now that I’m buying my own toys, I’ve learned how expensive they are!)
She’s already been pretty receptive to what I’ve talked to her about, so I don’t know how awkward she’ll be about it, but, knowing I’m not the only one thinking about buying their sister a toy for christmas makes ME feel much less awkward about it!