A few months ago my hubby became obsessed with finding my g-spot, mostly because the depraved man wanted to see if I squirted or not. But he also wanted to bring me the Holy Grail of orgasms that is promised with such a find. Truth be told we had a hellava time finding the little bugger, but it was fun too. Personally I think sex should be fun for who’s ever involved. If you’re not having fun then you’re doing it wrong is my motto, but then I write dirty books for a living so what do I know.

Anyway back to what I was talking about, it did take awhile but we took our time and he enjoyed playing with me until he finally found my g-spot. All I can say is… Wowzers! After feeling like I had to pee for a few seconds, that felt like forever, I had the most earth shaking, muscle clenching, pussy spasming orgasm ever. The hubby was pretty proud of himself too.

Later I got thinking, as I do. I tend to over analyze everything. If I hadn’t known what was coming, would I have told the hubby to stop when I felt like I had to pee? How many women have lost out on those awesome orgasms just because they didn’t know? In my entire life I’ve only had three really awesome orgasms and two were g-spot. Hubby did all three and I’ve yet to be able to replicate any thing even remotely close with a toy. Mostly because I find the g-spot toys hard and uncomfortable, at least the ones I‘ve tried. For a lot of women it’s hard to orgasm, period. Clitoraly or via the g-spot. I think for many the g-spot is even harder cause it’s so damn hard to find, and every woman is different. Their bodies work differently, so what works for me might not work for you or your sister or my sister, etc.

I also have to wonder how many women just gave up, because they couldn’t find it or thought they couldn’t orgasm that way? How many women might think there’s something wrong with them because they can’t find it? But I think the worst might be how many forget to have fun, because they become obsessed with finding that Holy Grail? They forget to just enjoy being with their partner. Enjoy one another, have fun, if you orgasm wonderful if not then just enjoy the time you spend trying.

Most women can’t orgasm if they’re tense or trying to hard anyway so why not just relax and go with the flow, your body will do it’s thing. It knows what it likes and what it doesn’t. Take your time learning and you’ll be surprised at what you discover. Use it as a time of self discovery and/ or let your partner find out things about you he/ she might not have known before. Above all, I can’t stress this enough, is have fun either alone or with somebody enjoy it.