This is something I’d been meaning to write for some time, but it was only when I read MarriedWithSex’s article, “The Myth of the Porno Penis,” that I finally found the extra inspiration I needed. While MWS’s article is obviously meant to be humorous (and it is), I know a lot of people actually become quite angry over the unrealistic sex portrayed in the movies. What I want to know is, “Why?” As I see it, blaming porn movies for people’s unrealistic ideas about sex is akin to blaming violent movies for real life violence. You’ve got to apply common sense to your movie experiences.
Are all guys as well endowed, or can fuck as long, as male porn actors? Of course not. Do all women have shaved vulvas, enjoy facials and choking on cocks? Don’t be silly. But to go so far as some people do and make blanket statements that no women enjoy those things, or that no “real” guys are that well endowed is ridiculous. In fact, to say such things is as bad as the porno “myths” that these people rail against. Why is it either/or when it comes to porn’s dissenters? Sure, there are some porn staples that people don’t enjoy but there is a market for this stuff or it wouldn’t exist.
Personally, I don’t relish ass-to-mouth scenes but I realize there are people who do. They may be the exception to the rule but they do exist. I don’t claim that no one likes ass-to-mouth scenes. And I don’t set out to bust this so-called “myth.” You know what I do? I don’t watch those scenes. I fast forward through them or I stop the movie. I have never been given a facial but it’s something I fantasize about and love seeing in pornos. I’ve choked myself on dildos and vibrators because I wish to choke on a real cock. And, yes, some women do shave their vulvas completely bare like porn actresses (me included) and do not feel or look like prepubescent girls. I didn’t even start shaving because of pornos. I shave for the convenience, pure and simple. OK, and because I like the look and feel. But don’t you dare say there’s something wrong with me or my partners for enjoying my bare vulva. And don’t bitch and moan about how all the blame rests on pornos. If anything, those who protest the loudest arouse my suspicions.
If someone goes around thinking all of the sex acts performed in pornos are a part of everyone’s sexual repertoire is incredibly naïve and needs a huge reality check. But, again, you can’t blame the movies. They’re made for entertainment purposes only. Yes, there are educational videos starring porn actors (hello, Nina Hartley) but those are a different animal to straight-up porn movies. Learn the difference, folks. At the very least, drop your irrational anger and apply a sense of humor to porno viewing like MarriedWithSex has. Then perhaps you can unclench your sphincter muscle and enjoy pornos for what they are: fictionalized sex scenes performed by actors to inspire you to have great sex, either by yourself or with a partner.