I have been buying products from Eden Fantasys for about five years now. Never have I had a problem with the company. I discovered last year that I could review products for their company. The best part? Anyone can do it. They don’t discriminate in any way whatsoever. The only thing needed- a community to vote you in. Not too hard right? No. For me it wasn’t, but for some this can be very difficult. Why is that? I have been watching the activity on Eden Fantasys for a while now. Watching a mix of members of the community, reading blogs, and following twitter. I have never commented in a bad way towards any member of the Eden community. I’m confused, when did reviewing sex toys become about competition and bickering anyway?

I haven’t spoke out about this issue at all. I keep my ticking fingers to myself most of the time. Personally, I don’t get the drama. It’s the Internet. Many people take all of it way too seriously. But my point of writing was not to complain about the bickering. Instead I want to focus on Eden Fantasys. I find enjoyment in reviewing products for them. I wanted to write about my personal experience with the toy. There are a variety of review types. Descriptive, off site, video, testimonials, extended, sponsored, and not sponsored. A wide mix here. What I am confused about is, where does someone draw the line between the reviews. I understand that a Sponsored Descriptive review should be detailed and focused more on obviously describing the product. But when talking about all other reviews… why is a product overview considered a better review than a personal experience?

When I start writing reviews I tried to do this. Eden Fantasys has a Product Page for every product they sell and on that page there is a Product Overview. Now when I wrote a review I wanted to focus on my experience with it. Not write a product overview. Sadly, it did not take long to realize that everyone thought this wasn’t useful. Why? I have no idea. Maybe because I didn’t say what color it was? Maybe it was if I didn’t put how long a battery lasted in it? Maybe I had a grammatical error? I don’t know.

I think everyone deserves a chance to review in their own way. Eden Fantasys accepts a lot of people. Just about anyone. They give us that chance. They allow us to review products for them at absolutely no cost to us. They offer incentives like gift cards, have giveaways, and lots of other chances for some great stuff. Eden Fantasys chooses to do this. Not the members of their site. What are we complaining about? What is the big deal here? So you don’t like what someone else says on their blog or twitter. Who cares? This should never be connected into Eden Fantasys and it should not reflect how you judge a review. This is where the ranks and ratings system becomes very nasty.

It bothers me that there is so much drama on Eden these days. And to be honest, it’s over ridiculous stuff. Sometimes I feel like there are a bunch of five years old writing sex toy reviews. Imagine what Eden Fantasys would be like without ranks? Do you think everyone would get along again? Would there be less competition? Less drama? I think so. Of course there is always going to be that one person that is going to be negative about everything. That is to be expected.

Do I think Eden Fantasys will ever get rid of the rank system? No. Do I expect them to? No. I think it is a great way to get appreciation for the reviews we do. What can make it better? The way we determine how to rate each other. Reviews should be about having fun with the products, using them, and sharing our thoughts about the product. So John Doe doesn’t have the better editing or grammar skills… does this mean his review wasn’t useful at all? No it doesn’t. Miss Mary forgot to put how long she thinks the battery lasts… was her review completely useless? Absolutely not. If I am going to take the time to read a review and give it a rating, I want to know what that person thought of their experience with the toy. I don’t need the battery type, toy size, or care instructions. I can find all of that right on the product page. It’s like retyping un-needed information. Why do I need to type it up when you know you are going to look at the product page anyway? Doesn’t make much sense does it?

I have to admit, I am not practicing what I am preaching. How can I? I feel like if I write about my experience and don’t write a product description, it will be rated less useful. So yeah, I follow the pack. What else can we do? If we want to have more opportunities on Eden Fantasys we need a higher rank. If we don’t write perfect reviews then obviously we lose opportunities. I think its unfair and childish how some members act. I have made an impact on my end. I read reviews and rate them in my way of thinking. So what if they haven’t written the description for the product label. That’s not what reviewing is about for me. I want to know how it felt, a story about when they used it, their experience. Not a product description. I will continue to write reviews to the satisfaction of the members. I will continue to rate reviews in my own way. I just hope that things will change. That the drama will fade and we can get back to enjoying reviewing for Eden Fantasys.