Word of the Week: Vibe
Since this is a sexuality site, the above definition is probably more relevant. Through reviews and personal experiences a good vibe can be differentiated from a bad vibe.
read moreWord of the Week: Cocktail
Regarding AIDS and HIV World aids day is December 1st Cocktail: a combination of drugs A highly active antiretroviral therapy, or HAART, is sometimes referred to as the AIDS cocktail. While these treatments are not considered a cure, they can delay progression to AIDS, reduce complications, and support the immune system by reducing...
read moreWord of the Week: Pheromones
Pheromones are chemicals used to communicate information. They are definitely real. They can be sending out information on territory, mating, food sources, and they can even signal aggression.
read moreWord of the Week: Pup Play
The term pup-play can be confusing to understand, and I can see why. Does it involve innocent playing with real puppies, zoophilia, animal roleplay—what is it?
read moreBCA: WotW: Pink Ribbon
An awareness ribbon is a sign of support for an issue or cause. The color, colors, and even patterns on an awareness ribbon have different meanings. It can sometimes be difficult or confusing because some colors have numerous, often completely unrelated meanings. The pink awareness ribbon is clearly a universal and international...
read moreWotW: Pink Washing
How pink is pink? What is Pink washing? The term was coined in 2002 by a grassroots advocacy group called Breast Cancer Action. Pink washing is when a company promotes itself as a leader in breast cancer awareness, while at the same time taking actions and sells products that may be contributing to breast cancer. They slap a pink...
read moreBCA WotW: Mammogram
A mammogram is an x-ray test to detect any abnormalities in the breasts. Abnormalities may be cysts, fibroadenomas, or they may be nothing at all. Our big fear is cancer. A lump does not equal cancer. The word we are hoping to hear after further testing is “benign”. A diagnostic mammogram is performed when something has been...
read moreWotW: Packing … Packer
We all dread packing to move. In my neighborhood packing, or packing heat, has an entirely different meaning. If you’re a football fan, the word packers may bring to mind the Green Bay Packers. Packing for the purposes of this WOTW has absolutely nothing to do with boxes, sports, or firearms. Although it may bring to mind socks. I...
read moreWotW: Strap-on
When does a harness become a strap-on? Your new harness comes in the mail and you excitedly take it out of the box and strap it on. You finally figure out all the straps and adjust it for fit. Turning to admire your new harness in the mirror you realize something is missing. You have strapped it on, yet it’s not quite yet a...
read moreWotW: Fifi
Did you name your adorable cat or dog Fifi? I can picture a little white fluff ball running towards its loving owner calling out to it in that cutesy baby talk voice, “Fifi,Fifi, come to mama Fifi“. Is your nickname Fifi? Fifi is often short for Josephine or Sophia. How many children’s movies have characters named...
read moreWotW: Hysterical Paroxysm
We are all familiar with the common word hysterical. Many of us are familiar with the term female hysteria, a purported disease dating centuries back. Less familiar, and more entertaining is the word hysterical paroxysm. Hysterical Paroxysm: Hysterical paroxysm was one of the treatment options for female hysteria. Hysteria was a...
read moreWord of the Week: Blow Job
The phrase Blow Job confuses me a bit. Not the actual definition. I know it’s a slang for fellatio. Not the act. I know exactly what that is, and how to do it. But I’ve often wondered how it came to be. I mean, really, the woman isn’t blowing. Well, she can if she wants, a little cool or warm blow mixed in with all that...
read moreWord of the Week: Heteroqueer
Anyone that knows me knows that I am very far from straight. I do perform at a lot of gay and LGBT events as a DJ. But I am married to a straight man that I love with all my heart. I bring him along when I’m doing shows, except the ones that are for people who gender identify as female. Usually my husband is the only...
read moreWOTW: Sugar Mama
To the men that might float around: If you tell your whole family that you are dating a specific woman and intend to marry her and start a family, you spend four nights a week in their bed and she’s with you the other three days, and the whole time she is buying your clothes and paying your bills, she is either your ...
read moreWotW: Voraphilia
also spelled Vorarephilia Think you’ve heard of every weird fetish there is? Well maybe you haven’t heard of voraphilia. The word voraphilia comes from the Latin vorare which means “to devour” and the Greek philia which means “affection.” Still with me? If you put those two words together you...
read moreWotW: Consensual Nonconsent
You won’t find Consensual Nonconsent in any dictionary, Urban or otherwise, but it’s an important concept to those involved in the BDSM lifestyle. It’s especially important to me, because my greatest desire is a well thought out rape play – and my greatest fear is losing my power as a feminist...
read moreWotW: Toss Salad
I always had a sign on my ass that said “EXIT ONLY” in big flashing neon lights. Nothing, and I mean nothing, was to go any where near it my ass. Fingers? No! Sex Toy? No! Penis? Hell NO! That all flew out the window when I met the man with the the golden tongue. Let’s just call him “Dre”. Dre was a great guy. Very...
read moreWotW: Compersion
Compersion. My word processor doesn’t even recognize it as a word…. Yet, according to Wikipedia, “compersion” is defined as: “…a state of empathetic happiness and joy experienced when an individual’s current or former romantic partner experiences happiness and joy through an outside source, including,...
read moreWord of the Week: Voyeurism
I searched around, and the main definitions of “Voyeurism” that I could find either had to do with the practice of spying on others during sex, the act of observing others during intimate encounters/acts and achieving sexual gratification from it, or someone that often looks for stimulation by visual means....
read moreWotW: Bondage
Bondage, as defined by www.dictionary.com, has two definitions. The first definition that pops up is “slavery or involuntary servitude; serfdom.” The second definition is “the state of being bound by, or subjected to, some external power or control.” Many people associate bondage with BDSM, and while bondage is a large ...
read moreWotW: Cupid
The day to celebrate love and lovers, Valentine’s Day, is once again upon us. Bringing with it the many symbols we have become familiar with: hearts, roses, cards, candy, and… Cupid. That nude, winged little fellow, armed with his bow and love arrows, shooting unsuspecting humans, who then end up falling in love with the first...
read moreWord of the Week: Androgynous
Androgynous is based on the greek words for both woman and man. It is one of those words that has two meanings that kind of equal the same thing. It can mean having no strong distinction between male and female characteristics, and also have both male and female characteristics. It is used in instances of everything from fashion...
read moreWotW : Erotic
Erotica has been around for over 7,000 years. And yet so many people either are not particularly aware of its existence, do not understand the width and breadth of the genre, or simply can’t find the dividing line between erotica and pornography. Erotica exists in many artful forms, most notably in the written word, sculpture,...
read moreStigmatophilia
Stigmatophilia. If you think anything like me, your first thought might be that this is a rather zealous sexual appreciation for crucifixion. Or the Catholic church. Or even that Patricia Arquette movie where her palms kept spewing blood on the subway. However we’d all be wrong. In actuality, stigmatophilia is a fetish...
read moreWhat’s In A Word?
Why did some words become offensive when others didn’t? What makes these ‘bad’ words so much worse or even all that different from other words? Who decided that we needed to even be able to insult people anyway, and what words were going to become ‘insulting’? These are questions that I’ve asked myself for a very long...
read moreWotW: Foreplay
You’ve said it, you know you have. And so have you. And you too over there! You ALL have said it! “This is better than sex.” You’ve said it. And so have I! And I’m sure we’ve all meant it, too. At least at the time, until we’ve had sex again. My partner and I both agree, and of course this is our opinion, that...
read moreWotW: Passion
Passion. I love being passionate about things, people and/or activities. If nothing else it makes them more enjoyable. Passion really falls into the category where you can have everything, from not enough of it to too much. If not kept in check, passion can become obsession, which is dangerous. I’m passionate about several...
read moreWord of the Week: Erotic
(Yay for word of the week! We haven’t had one in a very long time. Mad thanks to Living Fire for doing one this week!) Erotic is a word which is used so often it’s easy to take for granted. Upon looking at a dictionary definition of “erotic”, we get: arousing or satisfying sexual desire; of, pertaining to, or treating...
read moreWotW: Novelty
We sex toy buyers and reviewers see this word on various kinds of packages: “Sold as an adult novelty only.” I’ve noticed plenty of people (mostly toy reviewers) get upset over the word “novelty” as though the manufacturer put it there to insult their intelligence. Or they see it as evidence that a toy is of lower quality....
read moreWotW – Buzz
Word Of The Week: Buzz Buzz is an onomatopoeia, a word that sounds like its meaning. When I hear ‘buzz’, vibrators immediately come to mind. Now, of course *you*may prefer to call what vibrators do “throb” or “pulse” or “whirr” or “brr” but come on now, be honest – its all about the buzz. There’s...
read moreWotW: Shoegasm
A shoegasm, originally used on Sex and the City, is defined by the online Urban Dictionary as “Sexual pleasure you get from buying, wearing, or just looking at a kick ass pair of shoes.” Like a regular orgasm, a shoegasm can be brief and intense, or build up to a heightened state of pleasure. It can wash over you with waves...
read moreWOtW – Surrender
Surrender is defined by our friends at www.dictionary.com as such: to give oneself up, as into the power of another; submit or yield. Surrender can be such a beautiful experience. Think about it for a moment. How often do you find yourself pondering how it would feel to be taken without struggle? To be overpowered by...
read moreWotW: Valentine’s Day
The Origin of Saint Valentine’s Day To many, Saint Valentine’s Day is a ‘Hallmark Holiday’ – a cynical celebration created by greeting card companies in order to motivate husbands, boyfriends and suitors into shelling out for flowers, cards and chocolate. As a holiday, Saint Valentine’s Day has been celebrated since the...
read moreWotW: Vegan
I’ve already written about how important sexual health is to me, but another thing that is an important part of my life is my physical health and the health of the environment and animals. When I first realized this a few years ago I wondered what path I should take. Should I eat some grass-fed beef hoping it lived a good life? ...
read moreWotW: Watersports
Say the word “watersports”, and you may not be met with the most positive reception. However, watersports isn’t too rare of a fetish. Watersports is defined as “a sexual activity that typically involves urinating on oneself or being urinated on by others”. The first image that pops into most peoples minds is someone...
read moreWotW: Organic
WotW: Organic Pronunciation: \ȯr-ˈga-nik\ Function: adjective Date: 1517 : of, relating to, yielding, or involving the use of food produced with the use of feed or fertilizer of plant or animal origin without employment of chemically formulated fertilizers, growth stimulants, antibiotics, or pesticides I’ve noticed lately that...
read moreWotW: Masturbation
Masturbation. It’s a mouthful to say, but never to do unless you’re a contortionist. It doesn’t really need defining, but what’s a sex toy community without a few thoughts on masturbation? So here goes: The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition defines it as: “Excitation of...
read moreWotW: Retrosexual
‘Retrosexual’ is phrase that more than one person has tried to coin – with varying degrees of success. By far the most popular definition of ‘retrosexual’ is as the antonym of the ubiquitous term ‘metrosexual.’ Metrosexual describes a straight man who pays more slightly attention to fashion, style and personal grooming...
read moreWotW 2: Taint
‘t’aint your pussy and ‘tain’t your asshole.’ That’s how the expression ‘taint’ arose, to describe the fleshy, nerve-rich expanse that separates the genitals from the anus. Doctors and medical practitioners generally use the more scientific description ‘perineum.’ There are actually many colloquial names for this...
read moreWotW: Taint
‘Taint So! The word Taint has been around for a long time – since the 1500s. According to the Merriam-Webster online dictionary, taint originated from the Middle English “teynten”, meaning “to color.” It started out as a verb meaning “to contaminate morally” or “to touch or affect slightly with something bad.” ...
read moreWotW: Chocolate
Archaeologists report finding evidence of the oldest known cultivation and use of cacao, the main ingredient in chocolate, at a site in Puerto Escondido, Honduras, dating from about 1100 to 1400 BC. Damn, that’s some old shit. So how does something so ancient once used in everyday life come to be so loved in almost every culture...
read moreWotW: Atheist
It’s what I am, who I am. I reject all forms of the supernatural–all deities and gods of all religions, good or bad. I am against organized religion. I believe in separation of church and state, and I know that it does not exist here in America. Your god is not my god because I do not have a god. I do not pray and I do not...
read moreWotW: Discount
Which likely doesn’t really need defining but here goes: n. (dĭs‘kount‘) A reduction from the full or standard amount of a price or debt. The interest deducted prior to purchasing, selling, or lending a commercial paper; the discount rate. The act or an instance of discounting a bill of exchange, note, or other...
read moreWotW: Of manners and respect and courtesy
So it’s sort of a triple whammy this week. Manners. Respect. Courtesy. All of which sort of tie in together and produce polite people who treat each other in the manner they wish to be treated. What? You don’t see that very often? Me either. So let’s take a minute to define all three words, hmm? Manners:...
read moreWotW: Orgy
When someone says Orgy, what do you think? I often think of the “Orgy Guy” as defined by Seinfeld, on an episode called “The Switch”. In that episode, Jerry is bemoaning the fact that his girlfriend is into the idea of a threesome, and exclaims that he’s not ready to be an “orgy guy”, that he would need all kinds...
read moreWotW: BDSM
The other day, while wandering around on the Eden Fantasys forum, I came across a thread on BDSM. And I was kind of surprised – and disappointed – to see how many people still associate BDSM more with pain and punishment than bondage and sensuality. Part of this, I’m sure, is due to the way the media approaches...
read moreWotW: Necrophilia
Necrophilia I love October. The cool air, changing leaves, and intermittent blizzards. And Halloween, my favorite holiday, right around the corner. I thought it would be fitting to talk about a word that’s dark, nasty, and seems suited to the holiday of the dead : necrophilia. Necrophilia is a sexual attraction to corpses. The...
read moreWotW: Random Funny S$#%
Sometimes I like to cruise Urban Dictionary just for my own entertainment. I’ve talked about the site before. It amuses me. I can’t help it. It’s written by normal people (smart and stupid alike) and it not only has regular words and slang words, but phrases that are frequently used, as well. Like “keep...
read moreWotW: Love
by spicywife Word of the Week: Love You might think love is a pretty obvious word, but the meanings are complex and everyone may define love as something different. And is it a word used in the game of tennis? I don’t play tennis so I can’t say so for sure, which is why I looked it up on the internet. I mean, if you want...
read moreWotW: Twat
I am always interested by the differences between American and British English. For instance, the word “jumper” used by the British instead of “sweater” confused me the first time I read a book written by a British author, as did the word “lorry” for a truck. “Pissed” to mean drunk and “knickers” for underwear...
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