AgePlay Comes Out of the Closet
It used to be if you called your partner Daddy in public folks thought that your partner was your pimp, or you were both terribly sick. But times have changed, thankfully.
read moreBall Kicking Porn: A WTF on the Net
I recently found out about a fetish that I truly can not even fathom. This is a fetish for guys who like to be kicked in the balls.
read moreThe First Con—How To Handle It All
Conference season is almost upon us, and sitting here today looking at my own rather hectic schedule I had a flashback to the very first three day conference I went to. I did everything wrong.
read moreLittle Secrets
I often wonder how many secretive people are out there who are terrified to express what they want.
read moreNavigating the Fine Lines
There can be a fine line sometimes between kink and dysfunction—that area when you risk that a fetish or other alternative sexual activity goes from something fun and “out there” to something that actually fucks you up in addition to allowing you to fuck (or be fucked).
read moreIt’s a Pervertible Wonderland
Ah, pervertibles, that wonderful thing that every kinkster should know about. Your first kinky toys were probably pervertibles. A pervertible is any every day object that can be repurposed for a kinky purpose. Once you learn how to shop for pervertibles, you start seeing them everywhere. There are thousands of things that can be...
read moreOpen and Shut
I think it’s incredibly ironic that I’ve written now several times (here and at a couple of my blogs) about how my wife and I very recently decided to embark on an open marriage in our middle age, and how the whole situation around the act has created both joy and stress in our relationship, and yet…well, after...
read moreThe Four Cs
Some women are born naturally dominant. Some learn to be dominant. In my case, it was a little from column A and a lot from column B. The skills I am going to discuss in this article apply to BD/SM Tops and Dominants of all genders, but these tips are geared towards “lifestyle” female Dominants (women who are dominant for their...
read moreI Like to be Hurt. Did Being Bullied Make Me A Masochist?
I like to be hurt, both physically and emotionally. I’m a masochist, so a lot of my sexual needs are tied into pain. But do I like pain?
read morePacking for the Cisgender Woman
According to Wikipedia, “packing refers to the wearing of padding or a phallic object in the front of a person's pants or underwear, to give the appearance of having male genitals. Packing is commonly practiced by trans men, and people who cross-dress as male may also 'pack' to do drag king performances.”
read moreDominate is a F’in Verb
I often sit and shake my head at some of the things that get sent to me in my FetLife inbox. Dominates (yes I wrote Dominates) who want me to show them their ‘proper due’. Read attend to their every whim and want with absolute adoration while I am chained and naked, oh and soaking wet and wanting sex sex sex for no reason other...
read moreFetish Confessional
Speaking of imperfections, I also have a fetish for being marked. It doesn’t matter how. it could be bite marks, marks from fingernails, bruises, or even just cum on my skin. I think I’d even let my lover cut me if he wanted to, just as long as he was careful. I crave his mark on my skin.
read moreKink Has More Letters
I’ve noticed a disturbing trend in kinky/fetish circles lately, and it’s the notion that “kink” is a four-letter word that is synonymous with BDSM. I’ve got news for you (though hopefully most of you already know this): A lot more than those four letters fit into “kink.” Although Eden Cafe is a pretty...
read moreKink is a Perv’s Best Friend
I’m kinky. I know it sounds like a sordid confession, but really, it’s a plain and simple fact. I’ve known for a while that I’m kinky, I enjoy a wide variety of activities that make most “vanilla” people look at me like I’m off my bloody gourd when they find out. The thing is, where is the line between vanilla and...
read moreBlood Fetish
We all have our quirks. We all have something we’re into, that we just can’t explain. It’s our little habits and behaviors that make us each unique. My quirk is one I haven’t found in anyone else. I’ve looked. I’ve tried the internet, I’ve tried my friends. I haven’t found anyone who shares this quirk with me,...
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No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 16
Gandhi said if you want to change the world, you have to be the change. To that end, Rayne brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web.
read moreA Submissive’s Heart
I stood at the door afraid to knock and afraid not to. Beads of sweat rolled down parts of my body not exposed by my fitted low cut shirt and ankle length pencil skirt. In that moment, I questioned the choice to not wear panties. But it wasn’t my choice. It was his, and I obeyed without question. I never questioned him, from the...
read moreThe Cleaning and Commercializing of Kink
For many years kink was portrayed by the media to be the dark alley, the grungy dungeon. Kink was the iconic image of women being shackled to a wall with heavy manacles, in a basement with a gritty concrete floor. Kink was the black and white images seen in bad movies that warned against poor judgment in sexual practices, declaring kink abusive, and practitioners of it abusers, and informing the public at large that anyone who practiced kink was a pervert and should be shunned.
read moreYou Want to Put What Into My What
So there I was, tied and blindfolded on a table in a transsexual’s basement somewhere in a small Kansas town, filled with a panic-stricken anticipation as she slowly slid a stainless-steel rod inside my cock. My Mistress and I had just had dinner with some friends. We had enjoyed their “playroom” before, and I was a huge...
read moreRisky Business
These information inconsistencies are well known. My point is that there is an aspect of being owned and living this lifestyle 24/7 that nobody tells you about at first.
read moreFuck Me Like You Hate Me
I’m not saying I’m not interested in going out to dinner, or that I don’t appreciate getting flowers from my Daddy. I love those things. It’s just that when it comes to sex, I don’t need to be seduced or led into it. Drag me down the hallway kicking and screaming, throw me over the bed and then just fuck me like you hate me.
read moreComing into Power – Sort Of?
Several years ago, I split a bottle of cheap champagne and chatted with a wild, beautiful, pixie of a woman who happened to be a talented Pro-Domme. This was a few months after the stock market crashed, and Pixie (not her real name) complained that the economy was hurting her business. (So much for sex work as a recession-proof...
read moreJust How Kinky Are You?
There are different kinds of hitting after all, and no matter how much I like it, I am never going to react to a blow I didn’t ask for or set out to receive the way I do to a well-aimed kick or flick of a whip.
read moreFriends with Impediments
It seems that changing our entire sexual outlook is going to have to mean a whole new set of friends for the wife and me.
read moreGrowing Up Isn’t Easy …
… Says the (almost) 32-year-old Woman I never write about Breast Cancer Awareness. I never know what to say. I usually leave it up to more qualified writers who’ve got experience with the subject beyond just “My aunt died of a malignant brain tumor. Does that count?” I may have actually written exactly that...
read moreMelting Pot
Lately there have been a few posts on Eden Café about relationships, sex and religion. However, there have been even more posts on personal blogs about it. The BDSM, D/s, M/s lifestyle is always changing for those that live it 24/7, because it’s daily life, and daily life never stays the same for long. Mostly though, I’ve seen...
read moreNS(K)Q: Episode 14 – Things Change
Gandhi said if you want to change the world, you have to be the change. To that end, Rayne brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for Rayne, leave it in comments, or email it to rayne@insatiabledesire.com Question 14: So...
read moreOf Loving Other Gods
Society tells us that to idolize or worship is to be reserved for those not of earth. And yet from birth we are taught to do these things. Mothers covet their sons, and fathers covet their daughters, and when they grow up, some crave this worship. It’s fresh on their breath like a mother’s breast milk. And some of us seek one on...
read moreTrying to be the Tough Guy
I have a confession to make. Sometimes I slap my wife around. But before you start trying to figure out how to reach her to recommend women’s shelters, or try to track me down to have my kneecaps busted in (or worse), it’s not THAT kind of slapping around. I’m the reluctant tough guy—my wife bottoming from the top at times,...
read moreThe Unclaimed
Before I knew what I was, I found myself always wanting more–sexually. Every woman has the fantasy of being made love to in a sensual setting, and having every part of her explored. I too held on to these fantasies for some time, but after a while my fantasies began to turn on me. I no longer had visions of being laid out amongst...
read moreDiscovering my Butt: An Article about Male Anal Play
Well, honestly I started to play with my butt a long time before I knew it was sexual. Though not completely sure, I think I heard one of my uncles enquiring about my father shoving a thumb up his butt, and something about a monkey when I was still having trouble tying my shoes alone… (Ok… I still have trouble tying my...
read moreFurries
Obligatory Article about Furries: Well considering that I am a furry, and that this is a generally misunderstood area of the realm of pervyness, I thought it would be globally beneficial for me to write an article about what it means to me, what it means in general, etc… etc… So why not begin with something rather...
read moreCrutches for the Manly Man
Life is pain, highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something. ~The Man in Black We live in an “old neighborhood” as neighborhoods go in the United States. It was erected in the early 1900s as a place for employees of the American Locomotive Company to live and has become a place for folks who can’t...
read moreSexless BDSM Relationship
I have recently found myself single after being married for four years. It wasn’t easy to jump back into the dating scene, especially after a breakup that should have never happened, but about a year ago, I was in that boat. I quickly got my profile on dating sites to try and get my confidence high enough that I didn’t hate...
read moreSociety’s Not Big on Gals Like Me
It’s not easy being a female slave these days. The whole world, it seems, stands against you. What do I mean? Let’s start with the constant battle for women’s rights. While I’ll agree that a woman should be allowed to live whatever life she wants, and will wholeheartedly support the fight for equality, there...
read moreKink Etiquette for Your First Public Appearance
For many in the kink community, the first event you will ever attend is a local munch. Munches are informal gatherings that generally take place in family style restaurants, though I have tossed and attended them as picnics in parks, and am about to attend one in a doughnut shop. Generally speaking they are laid back, and people...
read moreCrossdressing
[Prologue] *Shuffles into the site in bunny slippers and a bathrobe* *Sees a topic suggestion* Cross dressing… Hm… I could work with that. Cross dressing! Something I’ve had a variety of experiences with. I used to be a cross dresser, am attracted to cross dressing, have hooked up with cross dressers, and as...
read moreFisting 102: Now Get In There!
Click here for Fisting 101 In part one of this series, I looked at some of the myths surrounding fisting that have scared people away from the practice. In this installment, I will walk you through how to actually attempt this epic sex act! SOME CONSIDERATIONS BEFORE YOU START: There are many factors that can make fisting physically...
read moreBad Habits, Good Sex
Badness. Wrongness. Being against the normal way of things. So much of kinky sexual activities seems couched in such terms. Those who embrace fetish-style activities or non-mainstream activities in the bedroom are seen as rogues or mavericks. They are seen as people bucking trends, either rashly or boldly. I find a lot of these...
read moreFive Weeks of Firsts -or- How We Keep Things Hot
M and I have been walking a lot. A LOT. In 11 days, we’ve done 18.44 miles. I don’t know where that falls in the grand scheme of things, but for us, that’s a whole friggin lot. If you factor in the day (or two… we can’t remember!) we didn’t walk, that’s an average of 2 miles a day. And...
read moreAccount of a Gangbang
Last week I was invited to watch a gangbang. There’s a misconception in the general public, I think, that gangbangs [wherein the bangee is a woman and the bangers men] are for the sake of the men while the woman is merely there as a cum receptacle. Which is ridiculous considering she’s the one who gets multiple people focused on...
read moreExhibitionism, Etc.
I am an exhibitionist. I’m sure I’ve said that before. It’s what drove me to begin writing about my sexcapades on the Internet and is what ultimately drew me to Internet Gor. I’m a writer, you see, and roleplaying on the Internet is an awesome exercise in one’s descriptive capabilities. And the perfect...
read moreThe Body Beautiful and BDSM
I use one of the many BDSM social sites to find events and keep track of my far flung friends. I also use it to talk to new people in my local area. We were all new to the lifestyle once, and I enjoy reaching out to answer questions or reassurance. The thing I hear the most is that a lot of women, and men, are afraid to come out...
read moreWhat to Expect at a Strip Club
Going to your first strip club can be an exciting and scary experience. Believe me, I know – I just went to my first strip club yesterday. I loaded my boyfriend and sister (which, by the way, taking your sister to a strip club is a very awkward venture, and you may choose to forgo this step when you take your own adventure) into...
read moreTwo Sides to Every Story
I am a total Gemini. There are two very different sides to me, and most people in my life only get to see one. As a matter of fact, I would venture to say that no one really knows both sides of me fully (with the possible exception of my best friend; she knows quite a bit about the “hidden” side of me, but there are...
read moreIron Hall: Gor on Second Life
Second life is a vast game, with many different places to explore. It is used for fun, recreation, and even for educational purposes. I remember for one of my classes, I had to build a virtual Harlem. It was a very fun, exciting experience to build something that other people from my university would experience. Yet, my own...
read moreColours, aka Synesthesia, and Kink
My back is arched as I come, whimpering, lost in the sensations and in watching the fireworks going off. And no, that’s not an euphemism. I see fireworks when I orgasm…my world turns into bright white flashes that are cut through with primary reds, yellows, and blues. I have synesthesia, and it’s...
read moreMy Foray in Phone Sex
What does it take to be a phone sex operator? Recently I found myself delving into this question. My interest was sparked by a Carlin Ross podcast in which she shared some stories of clients she’d had when she was working as a phone sex operator herself. The tales ranged from hilarious and entertaining, to sexy, to dark and...
read moreSo Many Labels, So Little Consensus
I had managed to get through 43 years of life with pretty clear sexual labels. Then middle age had to go and fuck it all up. Mind you, I’m not complaining, really. Middle age for my wife and me has brought a sexual reawakening the likes of which I never would have imagined, with us reaching a common ground that has allowed...
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