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Transtastic: On Coming Out as a Political Act
A friend, K, recently told me of her mixed emotions at missing an opportunity to come out as a lesbian. She explained how some kids she worked with had made gay jokes and, rather than let them know that she herself was queer identified, she simply told them that a good friend of hers was [...]
Continue reading...Transtastic: On Gender Policing by Friends
7. July 2010
I had an interesting and somewhat disconcerting experience this past month. I spent the time backpacking with a friend whom I hadn’t hung out with in years but had known for a long time and been very close with in the past. This time, though, out of nowhere, he started using the word “gay” as [...]
Continue reading...Trans Partner
16. June 2010
I am the partner of a transgendered person. And even more confusing to people is that I am legally married to my partner who is a transwoman. Who knew a simple change of names and gender pronouns would make life so difficult. It makes things so confusing to others. The rules have changed for me. [...]
Continue reading...Transtastic: On Why My Relationships Are Queer
9. June 2010
I’ve talked before about how I tend to date queer women. In that column, I talked about how I was attracted to the sorts of interactions I had with queer women, interactions where I felt that my gender identity could be fluid and unconstrained by traditional gender roles. A friend challenged me, though, when she [...]
Continue reading...Living Stealth – and Being Misconstrued as “Lying”
9. June 2010
**The author of this post has requested to remain anonymous** I never tell people that I’m transgendered—honestly, I don’t. I do not tell someone unless they pick it up from my reviews, unless they are themselves trans- or unless they are with someone who is. Now, of all of those people, I do not feel [...]
Continue reading...Transtastic:On My Untrained Anthropologist’s Eye
3. June 2010
I have a few friends from college who studied anthropology and love to talk about the effect of an anthropologist on the population being studied. The idea is that the anthropologist often can’t study a culture without also affecting that culture with their very presence. The funny thing is that, though I’ve never taken an [...]
Continue reading...Transtastic: On Gender Segregated Groups
19. May 2010
There are many wrong things to say to a trans person. If this were an episode of Family Feud, “What’s your real name?” would come up with lots of votes, as would “Have you had The Surgery?” But recently, I was reminded of another statement, one that might not come to mind as quickly. I [...]
Continue reading...Transtastic: On Airline Security
12. May 2010
I heard a pretty distressing news story this week. Apparently one TSA (the airport security people) employee just assaulted another one. Why? The second one had been teasing the first about the size of his penis after seeing it in a staff training demonstration of new security equipment. The story is here. I’ll let you sit [...]
Continue reading...Transtastic: On Body Image and My Transition
28. April 2010
I’m overweight. Though my friends sometimes, meaning well, try to tell me that I’m not, it’s not actually a debatable point—I’ve been fat all my life and it’s not likely to change any time soon. And guess what? These days, I’m relatively okay with it. Why? Because I’m trans. So, here’s installment 1045 of the [...]
Continue reading...Transtastic: On Transitioning Doctors
21. April 2010
Of all the transitions that I needed to make when I moved from Hippie Liberal Arts College to The South, changing doctors is the one that I’ve delayed the longest. It’s hard to find a doctor you feel comfortable with. So, rather than try and find a trans friendly doctor down here, I spent the [...]
Continue reading...Transtastic: On Why I Don’t Want a Penis
14. April 2010
I think, occasionally, about whether I would like to have a penis. For some trans guys, this is an easy question—the answer is a resounding yes. Unfortunately, the state of the world is such that the current options are expensive and unsatisfying at best, leaving many guys without the desire to pursue this particular path [...]
Continue reading...Transtastic: On Boy friends
7. April 2010
I don’t make friends with cisgender (that’s non-transgender) men very often. It’s stressful to be playing a social game with rules that everyone else has been playing with for their entire lives, making friendships with cis-men slightly challenging. Even so, I do have a few cisgender guy friends, and I’ve realized recently that they fall [...]
Continue reading...Naming
7. April 2010
If you’ve ever gone to kindergarten, you know that some names are designated for girls, and some are for boys. If you meet a Mary, Louise, Tabitha, Lily, she is going to be wearing a dress, or have a high pitched voice, or prefer finger painting to football…she is going to be a she. And [...]
Continue reading...Transtastic: On Hormones and Emotions
31. March 2010
One form of sexism that particularly drives me crazy is a tendency among men to discount women’s emotions as purely hormonal. I hate that when a woman becomes legitimately upset over something, it’s considered entirely acceptable to ask her whether she’s PMSing. The troubling implication is that the woman’s emotions aren’t justified but are merely [...]
Continue reading...Transtastic: On Being Into Queer Women
24. March 2010
I’ve been told that I’m sort of a lesbian and I tend not to be offended by that comment. Not because I identify as a woman (yeah, not so much) but because I came from the queer women’s community and I still feel very much at home in it when it comes to certain contexts. [...]
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