I sometimes hate my libido. It fucks up every relationship I’ve been in. It messes up even the casual friends with benefits flings I have. It screws me over. You see, I have a high sex drive. When guys hear this they laugh, they puff out their chest and assure me that they can keep [...]
Continue reading...23. June 2010
With her consent, I’m going to copy and paste the Formspring.me question that my friend AshlyStar received and her answer that inspired this post. “I know you read some blogs that post on this but never seen you comment any of them. How do you feel about the standards of beauty placed on women? How [...]
Continue reading...28. April 2010
I’m overweight. Though my friends sometimes, meaning well, try to tell me that I’m not, it’s not actually a debatable point—I’ve been fat all my life and it’s not likely to change any time soon. And guess what? These days, I’m relatively okay with it. Why? Because I’m trans. So, here’s installment 1045 of the [...]
Continue reading...27. April 2010
I’m a plus sized girl myself, with an average sized boyfriend. I’ve always been with “average” sized men, perhaps it’s due to my personal tastes, perhaps theirs; chances are it’s a combination. Either way, there’s a mighty difference between someone finding me sexy versus me actually feeling sexy. It wasn’t until this year that I [...]
Continue reading...6. April 2010
In actuality, not a lot- we’re all born differently and there are as many different appearances of the labia and vulva as there are women in the world. However, that has not stopped society from, as usual, coming up with some crackpot theories. Elongated labia minora? You must have a lot of frivolous sex and [...]
Continue reading...17. February 2010
Doctors. I’m not sure I know a single person who likes going to the doctor, but most of the people I know are more willing than I. “What happened?” They muse, “Why do you hate the doctor so much? You should just go and get it over with!”. It’s not one thing that just happened. [...]
Continue reading...5. February 2010
Since when did it happen that only women want to be healthier, eat healthier, care about their body and aspire to look or feel better in general by eating more good food and less junk food? But first, let me go off tangent here and say that actually there’s quite a lot of “diet food” [...]
Continue reading...5. February 2010
I’ve rarely been a person to deny herself pleasure. I’ve done some things in my past that I am not proud of anymore, in pursuit of said pleasure. And by “pleasure” I’m not just talking about sex, lol. But sometimes it was about sex. Or food…..yeah a lot of it has been about food. Sometimes [...]
Continue reading...5. February 2010
Recently I talked about how I was trying to find my femme side again. When my husband finally read that post, he came to me with heartfelt tears in his eyes and said “You don’t know how long I’ve waited to see this happen”. Since the death of my father 12+ years ago, I was [...]
Continue reading...8. January 2010
There have been so many posts about body image and body acceptance on Eden Café recently that I felt I should tell a story of my own – how my wife came to love her new body. When I was training to become a five-star sommelier, I leant that maturity was a virtue, not a [...]
Continue reading...8. January 2010
I’ve never “struggled” with my weight in the traditional sense. I don’t know what it feels like to have someone call me “fat,” to tell me that I probably shouldn’t have that second piece of cake, or to be considered the “chubby friend.” I don’t know what it’s like to struggle with finding cute clothes [...]
Continue reading...7. January 2010
I’ve always been one of those overweight kids. One of those that always wants to talk about how they were left out because of their weight. Well, they only talk about it because it’s true, and mostly because it really is something that most people aren’t aware of. I grew up looking pretty overweight. While [...]
Continue reading...6. January 2010
Today’s Women and Body Issues I have to wonder if anyone is truly happy with the way their body looks. It seems like every one of my friends has something they hate about their bodies. The list just goes on and on. Let’s just take a look at some of the issues we face as [...]
Continue reading...6. January 2010
I wear a size 20. Depending on the brand and the style of the article of clothing, I might even wear a 22. At the age of 32 (and I’m usually told I don’t look a day over 25) I am not yet ready to dress like my grandmother. But the brick-and-mortar stores at my [...]
Continue reading...5. January 2010
The list of the things that I hate about my body is a long one. I have never once, in my entire life, been happy or accepting of my size or the flaws of my body. You’ll rarely see my legs in my Half-Naked Thursday contributions because, in addition to their size, I have numerous [...]
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25. July 2010
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