A popular TV show that discusses the topic of sex offenders suggests that victims of molestation are groomed to it. That they are led to trust their molesters to the point that they feel it was their own fault. I can’t be sure that I’m any more or less damaged for acknowledging my [...]
Continue reading...11. March 2010
A while back, I heard a rumor. Someone thought it was absolutely abhorrent that I am required to call M “Master” when speaking to or about him, and that I’m usually required to capitalize “he” and “him” when I’m writing. Today, while trying to pick a topic to discuss here, I thought about [...]
Continue reading...11. March 2010
I have a hard time keeping my mouth shut. I like to talk to people about everything. I am definitely an extrovert. Which became a problem when I started a kinky relationship; I was faced with the problem of keeping my mouth shut or possibly alienating friends. I hear that quite [...]
Continue reading...4. March 2010
Remember back in the beginning when I said I’m a pleasure slave? And I said that doesn’t mean I only serve in a sexual capacity? But I do serve in a sexual capacity. And often. More often than not, our sexual encounters are more about M than me, or even us. That’s [...]
Continue reading...4. March 2010
It is common in the bdsm community to see collars. They can mean different things to different people. Some collars are worn only for play, or only on weekends, or only when the two halves of the couple are together. I mention this because while my collar means something very specific to [...]
Continue reading...4. March 2010
Not too long ago I wrote about people hating on guys with big penises. Today I want to write about the guys on the other end of the spectrum; specifically those who like to be humiliated because of their small penises. Now a lot of guys don’t like it when people make fun of the [...]
Continue reading...25. February 2010
There are a couple novice master/slave groups on a couple kink boards I frequent. A couple places where people who are just discovering their kinky side can ask any little question that pops into their head. And one of the most-asked questions is always, “How do we start?” The short answer is “Small.” as [...]
Continue reading...18. February 2010
Orgasm control. Giving someone the right to tell you when, where, how and how many orgasms you can have. Doesn’t it sound horrid? It can be. Other times, it’s pretty friggin awesome. Like this morning. But I’ll get to that later. I don’t think M was originally going to take complete [...]
Continue reading...18. February 2010
When it comes to BDSM, one of the biggest concerns is safety. When you think about some of the objects that can be used – handcuffs, restraints, gags, blindfolds – you can easily see why safety is something that the BDSM community continues to be very important. What aspects should you be careful with [...]
Continue reading...11. February 2010
This morning, M turned to me and said, “And as effing usual, I won’t be able to get your Valentine’s Day present until after Valentine’s Day. Payday is Monday.” And I kind of blew him off. “It’s no biggie, really. So I’m reading this abstinence-only study they did in Pennsylvania…” Anything more would have [...]
Continue reading...4. February 2010
I’m a “no limits slave”. There. I said it. Bring on the barrage of flaming and snark. There’s no such thing as a “no limits” slave, Rayne. Everyone has limits. You’re right. Everyone has limits. Everyone has lines they’d rather not cross. Things that completely squick them out or totally [...]
Continue reading...28. January 2010
People are often talking about the fantasy of consensual slavery versus the reality of it. They talk about how a lot of books – especially BDSM erotica – romanticize the subject and hide the painful parts. As I’ve mentioned before, a lot of M/s bloggers do, too. Almost as if they’re trying [...]
Continue reading...28. January 2010
What exactly is masochism? As defined by our friends at Dictionary.com, masochism is gratification gained from pain, deprivation, degradation, etc., inflicted or imposed on oneself, either as a result of one’s own actions or the actions of others, esp. the tendency to seek this form of gratification. I don’t particularly like this definition because it [...]
Continue reading...28. January 2010
You’re not a TRUE slave. That’s not the right way to dominate. You can’t be a true submissive if you do that. These are sentences that are seen in many different forums. If you go on the popular fetish social networking community fetlife, you will read statements such as these in every single [...]
Continue reading...21. January 2010
I’m feeling kind of ranty, today. That happens pretty often when I venture onto one of the few fetish sites I still belong to looking for a topic. It’s at least half the reason I don’t venture onto many fetish sites anymore. I always leave with a deeper understanding of ignorance and [...]
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12. March 2010
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