A Three’s Company Update, One Year Later A year ago I wrote an article entitled Three’s Company: Living With The Ex and The New Boyfriend and How It Works For Us. Certainly, it could be assumed that such a living situation couldn’t stay healthy for long. Rewind to when I wrote the article in September of 2010. My...
read moreI’ve always admired people that have open relationships. To be THAT trusting of your significant other to be honest with you and not to leave you for someone else, or to not care if they do.
read moreIt seems that changing our entire sexual outlook is going to have to mean a whole new set of friends for the wife and me.
read moreThere is a fine line, in the world we live in, between the love of a spouse and the love of nearly anything else. Whether it be for religious, societal, ethnic, or purely physical reasons, the love that one has for their legally bound partner is normally placed, depending on one’s views, directly below the love one has for...
read moreBeing a swinger in a long term relationship means everything you thought, and a lot you probably didn’t. Miguel and I started swinging very early in our relationship. I never knew that swinging was a way to have a healthy relationship. I never would have guessed that swingers even still existed. Aren’t they extinct? I don’t...
read moreWhen I tell people that I have an open marriage, or when there is a discussion about open marriage that I have the honor to be a part of, one of the first questions is always about the rules we designate. Unfortunately, they’re different for everyone, so I always suggest that people come up with their own. People often just...
read moreWhat a difference a day makes. One day almost spelled the end of my marriage. One day not only saved it but reawakened the passion and increased the potential of the relationship. My wife and I have had some bad patches at times, usually resulting from monetary woes in some shape or form, and certainly there have been times I’ve...
read moreA few weeks ago, Mark Oppenheimer wrote a piece for the New York Times that discussed the Congressman Weiner scandal, and what it says about the state of “marriage” in contemporary society. Oppenheimer’s wife was asked by him which was worse, knowing her spouse had an affair, or him tweeting photos like Weiner’s...
read more“All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts, His acts being seven ages…” — Jaques (Act II, Scene VII, lines 139-143), Shakespeare, As You Like It If you’ve read some of the articles I’ve posted...
read moreIn wandering gingerly through the forums at EdenFantasys I have come across several forums where terms for relationship groupings are used inaccurately, and to save any further recriminations and hurt feelings I have decided to provide a short definition of each term. Monogamy is the term applied to a relationship that is closed and...
read moreI absorb information. I’m like a little sponge that just wants to know more and more about the world around her. To be honest, I’m totally okay with that. I absolutely love reading non-fiction and fiction books, and learning virtually everything about some of the oddest subjects. (The flipside to this is that when...
read moreI have come to the realization that most people have no idea what an open relationship means. I don't mean what it entails, because there are countless articles and even books written about that concept , what I am talking about is what it MEANS to be in an open relationship! Being open means being willing to entertain the...
read moreSome people say the secret of polyamory is firm, unbreakable boundaries and contracts. They say that you should communicate your needs and desires and build a foundation of understanding between all the members of the proposed grouping. Everything should be discussed and debated and fairness should rule the day. Boundaries protect...
read moreI am used to having to explain myself, especially to parents and all those other people I used to be able to call “grown ups”. I left my family church at sixteen to pursue a pagan path and was always the odd one out in political conversations and dinner table discussions. I spent a great deal of time and energy in my...
read moreI remember a particularly dark period when I first found out I might be pregnant with my son. So many emotions were exploding inside me, partially because of the hormones and partly because this pregnancy wasn't expected. Today, however, even though I am facing a heart wrenching goodbye I can't say that I wish I hadn't...
read moreRecently we had a very sad little shout out to anyone who has a thriving successful polyamorous relationship. This poor guy was worried because while everywhere he read that polyamory is a wonderful lovestyle, and it is a wonderful lovestyle, but when he would ask questions he would get sob story after sob story. It’s pretty...
read moreOne of the criticisms of open marriage and polyamory I read about is that it is too free. Wouldn’t we all like to be able to have sex with whomever we want? Somehow this is just wrong. There have to be limits and it’s immature to want more. The premise being that it is selfish to assume that one has the right to be...
read moreI have finally accepted that my husband LOVES my body, loves the real me. This might seem like something to be taken for granted; I mean what wife doesn’t believe her husband loves her? For many women, though, this is the driving force in their lives. We worry about that pimple, those stray hairs, the gray hairs, the wrinkles,...
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