Let me start by saying that I have accumulated a vast collection of lingerie through the years, as well as a few dearly loved toys. I never really relished the idea of going into sex shops, as I live in Houston and there are a lot of shady characters that frequent these establishments. I have for years, though, had an insane curiosity and desire to try out a few more things.

A friend of mine recently turned me on to the EdenFantasys’ Facebook page, and here it all began… .

After liking the page to get my free Kissa vibrator, joining the community, getting a mentor, and mulling over the site, my journey started. What a great journey it has become!

I started with the free Kissa. Plus I made an order and received another free gift, and haven’t slowed down since. I eagerly watched every move the mailman made for days until I received my first order. After tearing open the box, making sure all the doors were locked, and getting myself comfortable, I began trying out my new treasures. And subsequently, I do believe that I may have created a monster….heehee.

I have now been a reviewer a little over two weeks and have accumulated three vibes, one mini-vibe, one bullet, and two finger vibes, with two more shipments on the way including my first assignment! My local clerk at Walgreens is now eyeballing me funny on my battery purchases, and the mailman looks terrified as I stand at the door everyday when it’s mail time. My boyfriend however couldn’t be happier! He is getting just as excited as I am over our little secrets arriving.

So now I am sitting here checking my shipment status so that I know when to start hanging out at the screen door again, waiting for my new-found friend…the mailman, and looking at what we will try next. Edenfantasys, you have made a fan out of me for sure. And I am pretty sure that my boyfriend will forever be in your debt.

More to come……

Our topic is How to Get Inspiration for Blog Posts this month.

March 31, 2011 at 7pm

Veronica Monet was a high-end escort who catered to married men for nearly 15 years. Now she teaches couples to create compassion, connection and a revitalized sex life through specific communication techniques. How did her work as an escort prepare her for her current role as a Couples Consultant? Find out here!

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When I started reviewing in August, I had a larger than average, but still very modest collection. My boyfriend at the time, J, encouraged me to pursue reviewing when I discussed it with him. When I asked if he wanted me to get something for him to try, he’d always tell me he didn’t “need anything.” This, in its own way, was hurtful, since he was implying that I did need my toys to get off. J would tell me he supported my growing collection, but in hindsight, I don’t think he fully supported it. And then a few weeks after I started getting items to review, he broke up with me. Which was so nice of him to do, especially when I had requested items he suggested we could use together.

Then I was single, with more sex toys than most girls my age have. Back to online dating. One site I am on has lots of sex related questions you can answer, which can give me a good idea if someone would be accepting of my hobby. But for the sites that don’t, I try to chat casually, and if we get along, eventually hint at sex. From there I can judge how they will react to my blog. The few guys I’ve dated casually, and told about my blog, were very accepting; perhaps I got lucky, or am just good at judging people.

Eventually I found D, and he fully accepted my toy collection and blog. I’d tell him about the products I was getting, and he’d even help me test out many of them. I even got him a few things to try and test out. He was even interested in becoming a reviewer. It was a lot of fun to explore things with him, since he was very inexperienced. But not everything is meant to last.

For those of you that follow me, you probably know I am recently single again. I’m not upset or heartbroken, I mean we did only date for about two months, but I am a bit disappointed. The guy I was seeing, let’s call him D, fully accepted my toy collection and my blog. I met D on an online dating site. We hung out once before he went home for a weekend, and chatted a lot online. Somehow we got onto the topic of sex. When I talk about sex with a new partner, I try to gauge their interest, and maybe bring up the topic of toys and ask for their opinion. D came off as young, and willing to try almost anything. After we hooked up the first time, I showed him my blog and he thought it was awesome.

But in two months alone, my collection has grown quite substantially from what I had when I met D. As it grows, I worry a little bit more about how to bring up the topic. Reviewing is a hobby I really enjoy, and it’s very important that my partner be accepting of it. Plus, it’s getting much harder to hide and keep discreet. I live with roommates, but I have my room to myself, so I usually leave a few things lying out. I have a huge trash bag of toy boxes I need to recycle, but can’t just toss it in the community trash can. But that’s not a hard fix. I can leave some discreet items out like massage candles, the beautiful Lelo bottles, and even my condom cube. And I do have a three drawer plastic dresser to store everything in. But what on earth was I thinking when I got a bright orange one? I did line the drawers so it’s not see-through, but the bright orange still stands out. I have a bit of paranoia that if I don’t tell someone, and they are in my room, they’ll see this big orange thing and either ask me about it or take a peek.

Thankfully, I haven’t come across anyone who has freaked out, or stopped talking to me, after mentioning my hobby. I worry that it will happen sooner or later, though. Perhaps the type of people I am attracted to are just more open-minded in general. But the only thing you can really do, if someone is freaked out or unaccepting, is just to move on and find someone better. I know eventually I’ll find someone who appreciates my Liberator Throe, and is dying to try my We-Vibe.

Ever read a post on EdenCafe or uploaded a video review? Carrie Ann had something to do with it.

Monday March 7th @ 8:30pm

My boyfriend and I had been dating for about a year at the time I decided to retire my first vibrator. It wasn’t because it didn’t work anymore, it did. It wasn’t because I hated the fact that it was a huge battery eater (which it was). It was because the darned thing started having mold spots. Little spots of white mold both on the surface of, and inside, the material of the jelly vibrator. (I’ve learned my lesson since about jelly materials, and am pleased to say that nothing I own now is made of that material.)

It was sometime in August 2010 when I made my first purchase at Eden Fantasys, and it wouldn’t be until several months afterwards that I would write my first review of that same first purchase. I didn’t really want to tell my boyfriend, at first, that I was going to be writing reviews in my spare time. We’re fairly open, but I just like to avoid conflict when I can, and I wasn’t sure how he would react to it.

I brought it up casually during a late night conversation once. He’d just gotten off work, and I was about to go to sleep, and was drifting off already when we were talking on the phone. And then I asked him what he would think if I were to start reviewing the sex toys that I had gotten in the mail.

“I get to help you try them out, right?”

Of all the things that I was expecting him to say, that probably wouldn’t have been the first thing. I expected to hear him reminding me not to mention his name or post photos of us online. Instead, he was just eager to try things out.

As of right now, I only review things that I’ve bought myself (which can get a wee bit expensive). But I like the freedom that it affords me right now, in terms of getting to decide when I get reviews up. It’s fun too, getting to try things out. As for my boyfriend? He enjoys it when I buy new things. I unbox things in front of him, and he gets very excited over the idea of trying them out. So far I haven’t gotten anything that would make him squirm, or flat out refuse to try it out, so I figured things are still going well. As for my reviews, he doesn’t seem to have much of an issue with them, as long as I don’t write out the in depth details of how we used them and what we did. But he’s always asking me when I’ll be putting in another order and when packages will be arriving.