I have two kids and breastfed both of them, actually I’m still breastfeeding my youngest who’s 16 months. While there are great benefits to doing this there are down sides. While preaching how it’s better for baby they fail to tell you about the physical demand on your body. The doctors, professionals, lactation specialists tell you there will be changes, but you don’t expect the pain that comes with your milk dropping or a blocked milk duct. They will warn you about sore nipples, but explain that to your partner when you won’t let him/her touch them. It gets to the point where the last thing you consider your breasts to be is sexy. They’re these things that hang off your body and you don’t want anyone to touch them or even look at them. But despite how we feel, sex and breastfeeding are connected. No matter how much we want to say that breasts are not sexual during this time, they are.

A woman’s body releases a chemical called oxytocin, not to be confused with OxyContin which is a drug. Oxytocin is the hormone that triggers the let down of milk when an infant nurses. This chemical is also the hormone that causes the uterine contractions during your orgasm. Since sex and breastfeeding are both taboo topics, and lets be honest very few think of them as connected, for many people very few know this link. It may seem weird when you orgasm to spray milk all over your partner, but you never know, they may like it. It really quiet natural for your partner to be curious about your milk. What’s it taste like, what’s the texture? Some guys even find lactation hot. Now you might find it weird or strange that your partner wants to try this.

I’ll be the first to admit I felt a little strange when my husband asked to taste my milk after our daughter was born. It seemed weird that he’d enjoy nursing, but he did and does. When I became pregnant with our son, he kept asking when I’d start lactating. After I did he payed more attention to my breasts than before. Which was kind of nice. I discovered my breasts had become more sensitive than before. He recently asked me if I found him suckling weird. My reply was I didn’t really think about it anymore. Really it’s just something we do during sex, as normal as kissing.

Things may go through your head like will I make enough milk, is he/she stealing the baby’s meal? Nope, don’t worry, it’s a supply and demand thing – the more demanded the more you’ll make.  Or the baby might not want to nurse after but as long as you shower the kid won’t know. Or it’ll weird me out. Well if you like your nipples sucked, just pretend they’re doing that instead. If not then talk it out with your partner, I’m sure they’ll understand. I’m not saying this is for everybody. I’m just saying give it a try. You never know till you try, right?