SKYE: A special warm welcome goes out to you Sienna for joining us on EdenFantasys.com. Sienna Sinclaire is a very exotic name. Reflect on how this enticing name came about.

SIENNA SINCLAIRE: Thank you very much, first thing about my name. I’ll do my best to explain. I had a book of baby names… I found Sienna and then talked to my website guy. He came up with Sinclaire, because of sin.

SKYE: Excellent. How’s that working out for you?

SS: Well no one has Sinclaire because I’ve trademarked it. No one else can use it for what I’m doing.

SKYE: Perhaps one of the accolades you’re best known for is your breath taking burlesque. For those of us unfamiliar to its term, what is burlesque, and how does it fit into adult entertainment today?

SS: Burlesque began in the 1800’s as a comedy. I think it means redeeming comedy act. So before they would have guys do a comedy skit, a girl would come on and she would also do something cheeky. They’d perform at the same time. She might remove a glove, not like what it is today, or she might remove something behind the curtain and then show her dress when she’s still behind there. So it’s evolved from that. It was kind of cheeky innocence to something a little more risqué moving into the 1930s and 1940s, where they removed a little bit more to tease. Then men stopped going to the clubs because they wouldn’t watch. Then as time went on, people just tried to push the limits, then it became the strip clubs that we know today. Then it kind of died because it became too raunchy and people didn’t really like that for that era. Burlesque went to the wayside.

In the 1970s, I think it went away. I mean people were still doing it, it just wasn’t popular at all anymore. In the 1990s we had Dita Von Teese in L.A. and its just evolved to what it is today. So now it helps the women become confident in all shapes and sizes. They don’t care. Like porn, they don’t care what shape or size you are. It’s mostly girls that have real boobs. Hardly ever see a girl that has fake boobs in a Burlesque show; maybe a few, but its rare. It’s just beautiful. More women get into it because they don’t feel confident, like taking up something new. They start it, and it brings this something out about them that they haven’t felt before. It makes women feel sexy again.

SKYE: In your opinion, what’s the difference between a strip tease and burlesque? Is there a fine line, or is there a prominent difference?

SS: A strip tease can be whatever you want. It can be just removing your clothes or even a dress, that can be a strip tease. You don’t have to be naked. Burlesque is the same way, it incorporates stripping but you don’t go fully nude. Its meant to be cheeky, to evoke imagination. If you want to see naked women, you go to a strip club. If you want fun adult entertainment that’s sexy, not really raunchy, you go to a burlesque. Not that being nude is raunchy, but in burlesque you can’t just go to panties and pasties. Some girls only go bra and full back panties, so it varies.

SKYE: How did you get involved with the Burlesque scene?

SS: It came about…..well I started off in porn, and then I find I get bored of stuff and just kind of check them out. I found myself looking into pin-up sites. Pin-up erotica always reminded me of Burlesque, and a lot of people in this industry are in the pin-up industry and vice versa. So I started going to a lot of events and training with this one lady that is a genuine burlesque performer. I just started putting my act together, and that’s how it all happened.

It was a year and a half before I went on stage. I was studying it, seeing what I wanted to do. It was fun.

SKYE: I was on your website earlier today. Peeking and poking around, seeing the very glamorous 1950s type look with your hair pulled back, the garter belts, the nylons, the very soft, sensual side is what I saw. I have to tell you I admire that you have your natural breasts.

SS: Well, thank you.

SKYE: I find it completely sexy. That’s at Siennasinclaire.com. Do you feel the current age of adult entertainment has lost its artistic edge? I know you portray a very artistic persona. Do you feel there is not enough of that out there?

SS: The reason I did it is because when you get into porn you get into other people’s, which this is the majority where you’re just a hot girl and you put on lingerie and bikinis. Anybody can pose naked, do sexy acts. You need to find a niche. So I was looking for what I wanted to do, and I always wanted to incorporate things from the fifties. It’s how I decorate my house. Art décor-very glamorous, the clothes I wear; I fifties clothes out, dresses. Just the way I dress is even very glamorous, even at night time. So it’s just who I am. It’s want I wanted to go with. The forties and fifties doing the pin-ups from the different eras, but I do think it’s lost. Vivid and Playboy and Digital Playground, they have a lot of money (laughs), so they’re very artsy. Some of their stuff is anyway.

You have parodies, which I think is really funny and interesting. You have The Pirates. I thought that was really interesting and artistic.

There’s another guy, Andrew Blake, that does really artistic porn. But there’s very few people, very few people. People in the porn industry are straight get naked, throw out the lingerie. Let’s do this; we want the money shot. That’s not what I’m about.

SKYE: So you’d say your favorite element of the industry today would be theme based?

SS: Theme related. My website is mostly pin-up, retro-style. I’ve done the 70s. I’ve done the ‘80s, 50s, 40s, 30s, 20s, 1900s. But I also do stuff like Cleopatra, stuff like that. Then my other side is fetish. It’s also retro. I also do theme stuff with latex and nylons.

SKYE: Upon the glamour side of your site, the bio section sites: “A wide spectrum of achievements from sex to relationships couch to belly dancing to modeling to directing films and as a writer. As a sex couch what is your most commonly asked question?

SS: I don’t know if its necessarily one question. It’s so random with everybody. There’s no one answer that can be given for everyone. It surprises me how so many people have too many things in their lives; something personal and important to them. If I had to guess it’d probably be with people and communication. They may not come out and say that, but it’s really all about communicating with your partner.

It’s usually something-how do I go down on her? How do I kiss her? How do I have a better blow job? Things like that. That is the key. Ask her what she likes. Ask him what he likes. Communication is the key. Seriously there is no one given thing they ask the most.

SKYE: As a sex coach, what does that mean?

SS: A therapist has their PhD, lots of school. They have laws, and depending upon the state they work in can get sued like a doctor. Sex coaches cannot. Sex therapists you cannot touch your patients. Sex coaches, we can if it helps them with what they need. So if a woman felt, say if she had an ugly vagina and you felt it was in her best interest to show her your own vagina, you can see the differences that women have. A sex therapist wouldn’t do that. It’s intimate, is what it is.

Sex therapists also deal with your past. Sex coach’s deals with the now and gets you to focus on the present and future. We don’t deal with the past at all. You may bring it up, yet we focus on where you are now and where you want to go. I help you get there.

The same with a guy, maybe he needs to…you know there are sex surrogates here in California. They’re legal. That’s where you’d work with a sex coach or a sex therapist. If they can legally have sex to show you things with their client, but it has to be a referral of a sex coach or therapist.

SKYE: Excellent.

SS: But like I said, the coach isn’t having sex with the person. You can do body work, like if someone comes in. There might be a guy that comes in, and he’s never been touched. Touch is a very important and powerful thing. You could touch him, do a massage, stuff like that but not having….you know sexual….

SKYE: …..say it….

SS: …..like sex surrogates can show the guy if he comes in, and he’s feeling a little self conscious about his penis maybe, small penis, he can’t get it up-the sex surrogate can help him with that and make him feel more confident, and you know…sexually where you can’t do that. We don’t have the license.

SKYE: I understand. There’s a very definitive line there. How did you get into that?

SS: Sex coaching? People have always come up to me growing up and wanted my advice on stuff. I got into the adult industry, and people wanted my advice more. I love helping people, then I was thinking, who can I actually make money off of this.

It’s not only a business. I wanted to educate myself more; to see if this is what I wanted to do. Then I went to sex coaching school here in LA. We meet every month and go over certain topics, on-line classes with them. I’ve done some other schooling with sex coaching and relationships-just different stuff. You’re always learning. You never stop learning. It’s not just class certification and you stop. There are always seminars, reading books, just being around different things. So when I started doing that I realized how much I was learning. How I really love doing this-porn or anything I do. I love knowing when say a woman comes to see me, whether its low self confidence, or she leaves after one session or a years worth of sessions, she feels more confident and reassured about herself. That, to me, gives me great pleasure. A guy that has low self confidence, whatever it is, it just gives me pleasure knowing I’ve helped somebody-sexually too.

SKYE: That’s a great job. Good for you that you’re able to help people like that. Go the extra mile, that’s awesome.

SS: Yeah sexuality is very important. A lot of people ignore it and focus on their work and all this other stuff. Your sexuality gives you confidence. You should feel better about yourself. -So many aspects to it that people don’t realize.

SKYE: For sure. Your website www.siennasinclaire.com is a Mecca of fantasies. What is your one unfulfilled fantasy?

SS: Oh! I’ve done so much. I’ve always had a fantasy then just go and do it. I can’t really say I have any unfulfilled fantasies now. Maybe a new one will come up in the future that will make me go-Oh! I want to go and do that. Right now? Nope.

SKYE: Good for you, that’s great.

SS: You can’t be in the sex industry and not try everything.

SKYE: Really?

SS: Well I mean that, to me, if you’re a sex therapist, and I’m not saying anything against when I was in my sex coaching class, there are a lot of gynecologists and therapists; People who are very intelligent, have their PhD’s. Then there’s me. I have college and things like that. I’ve gone and done what they’ve done. But I know more than what they know just because of what I’ve done.

Like when we talked about fetishes, and we talked about the porn industry, we talked about….I just feel like I have more hands on. They know more of the technical stuff.

SKYE: Is there anything you’ve tried-you may do again-but not on the top of your list?

SS: If I’m not one hundred percent happy about something, it doesn’t give me pleasure, then I’m not going to do it again.

No point in wasting time, I’m not going to do it.

SKYE: Any special message to your fans-what is the greatest way to reach out and touch Sienna Sinclaire

SS: Reach out and touch me-you can come to one of my trade shows. My movies can be found on www.siennasinclaire.com My glamour and fetish side, pick your favorite. I also have a social network called SiennaSinclaire.com just fans of erotica, discuss different topics, porn, burlesque, all kinds of stuff. I also have a website www.naughtytravelgirl.com It’s my book’s website. A book coming out soon called The Naughty Girl’s Guide to Los Angeles – first one in a series. I also have naughty tours. So if you’re in LA you can sign up for a tour. I take you to different areas, shopping, fetish stuff, hotels, whatever. You can even go on a film set and watch me perform in a porn.

And you can direct your own porn. So you can choose the option, sit and observe or direct yourself; videos-come and be in a photo shoot. I have all the sets, props and costumes. Whatever you fancy, I got.

It’s called The Naughty Girls Guide but it’s also for men too. Women aren’t more likely to buy this, but they’ll buy it for a guy.

SKYE: Or the guy will read it when his wife’s out of the house.

SS: Yeah the girl’s more likely to buy it and say, ‘Honey, let’s do this.’

SKYE: Anything else you’d care to add?

SS: You can find me on facebook, twitter. I do have a website called www.followsiennasinclaire.com It lists all my social networks.

SKYE: Thank you, I really enjoyed talking with you. I hope we can get together in the future and do this again.

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SKYE:  Out of all the genres within the adult film industry, how did you come about being a Dom? How did that start?

LW:  In Manhattan. Talk to any of the people who knew me back in the eighties, when the Hellfire Club was still around, and The Vault was not even open yet but on its way to being opened.

I was very good friends with the owners of these clubs, and you become a celebrity in the under ground scene, in Manhattan. It happens pretty quickly. I was married to this woman named Arianna who was a really, really beautiful, hot Italian female dominatrix, and she and I just made this couple. We saw one of the fetish industries’ logo used her image on their logo, and we just became well known. It came naturally for me. I’ve always been a bit of a control freak…..

SKYE:  Ok…..

LW:  And I had my own share of weirdness in childhood, just like everybody else. It was just a natural affinity for me like water running downhill.

SKYE:  So what exactly was the first experience for you being a dominator? What was that very first experience when you’d realized it was ok to tie somebody up?

LW:  Well…..

SKYE:  ….Or to spank somebody’s bottom and know that it was sexual or…

LW:  In my travels around all the sex clubs and everything, I met a woman named Gertrude. She was an older woman. She was really into fetish, and she kind of trained me to top her. That’s what she was into. So I guess I was around nineteen years old at the time. It just felt right. You know, I was also into martial arts. Things along that line. I studied aikeido at a very young age. Aikeido is a very beautiful martial art. It’s not harsh like karate is. There’s no chops or kicks. It’s all about using the opponents energy against him, flow and motion. It’s actually based on sword work. A lot of that philosophy extended over into the work that I was doing in the fetish world.

SKYE:  It’s a self discipline.

LW:  Not just the self discipline, but the coordination and physical agility and ability to move gracefully. It’s a true performance art back in the early days. People would just come and watch, not even on the video, but come out on set and it was a scene. It was just us going into the club. Believe it or not we’d pull up to the Hellfire Club, park on the sidewalk, and nobody objected. They knew it was Luc and Arianna getting out of their car. We never paid. We never paid to get into any of those clubs. When we did a scene in the middle of the club, there was a gathering. There was maybe a hundred people in a smoky, dark room. Everybody huddled up around one another, just to watch us play.

SKYE:  Oh really?

LW:  (laughs) Yeah….

SKYE:  That must have been something.

LW:  It was fun. I appreciate my private life now too, though. I’m not recognized as much as I used to be. I keep to myself. I edit a lot. I spend a lot of time on the internet. Life has changed for me a lot for the last twenty five, thirty years.

SKYE:  Well everyone has to grow up.

LW:  ( laughs )…I didn’t say that….

SKYE:  So what makes you such a stud?

LW:  Well….It’s probably my state of mind more than anything else. I was never one of those people who felt they could fuck any woman that walked the earth. Those were the true porn stars in my mind; like guys like Ron Jeremy, Tommy Byron, I don’t know if you know those names or not?

SKYE:  Ron Jeremy – yes.

LW:  Yeah, it never mattered to them who they were having sex with, and for me, I always wanted to have a connection, but when I did have that connection it was a deep one for me. I can either not work with someone, or I can work with someone I can really perform with.

SKYE:  Right…

LW:  That’s how I mix. I was a good looking kid, I guess. I was working out a lot. I was kind of buff, and in fact, in those days porn stars didn’t’ really have to be buff, in fact they weren’t in most cases. I looked good on the front of a box cover. And I had a hot wife too so….

SKYE:  Hot wives always help, don’t they?

LW:  They do!

SKYE:  (laughs) Being in the industry as long as you have, has there ever been any situations or experiences that have turned you on more that others?

LW:  Whew..well…you mean on and off camera?

SKYE:  Either or, actually. I kind of want to get into your head, find out what turns you on.

LW:  Well here’s what I can tell you a little bit about fetish. I love fetish. I love leather. I love anything to do with bondage, costuming, fashion is even a fetish for me. You know I love a well dressed woman. For me sex has always been kind of a quest. So I l always try to make it a little better.

SKYE:  Okay….

LW:  And I’ve had some formal training. Alex and I have a couple that we’re in a very close love relationship and they’re tantric instructors. They’re published tantric instructors, in fact. So we’ve done a lot of work on tantric sexuality, and we’ve done work on other forms of sexuality through surrogacy work that we’re doing now. And we’ve done a lot of work in the sex work through our entertainment, and what we try to do is bring all that together each time now that we get involved and have sex. Bring it all together and try to constantly enhance our sex. So I would tell you that hopefully the most exciting sexual experience is the next one.

SKYE:  Okay

LW:  (laughs) There are moments with Alex. Alexandra and I get really, really connected. You can always enhance your connection with somebody.

SKYE:  Exactly.

LW:  And I will tell you, when we’re there and we’re really connected is when the sex is the hottest. There’s things people can practice, connecting like that. Simple very physical type things like breathing. Looking into one another’s eyes. Remaining in the here and now. How many times have you had sex with your lover and you weren’t really there?

SKYE:  Right, right.

LW:  You know? You’re not present. You don’t even have to be fantasizing about another man, but you’re fantasizing about another moment with your lover. “Oh that time you and I were down in Cabba on the beach…”

SKYE:  Right.

LW:  …instead of the here and now. And I think that disconnected part is such an obstacle for so many people (sighs). I don’t know, the closer you get to your partner, the better the sex is. Sex isn’t really a selfish thing. Even though you’re responsible for your own orgasm. I think sex is a very giving thing.

SKYE:  It is. It sure is. You have to be less inhibited and willing to trust the other person completely.

LW:  Yeah… Talk about being less inhibited, how about you my dear? Ever delve in the dark side? Ever dabbled in any of the fetish world?

SKYE:  Yes I have….

LW:  Ahhh… So what turns you on my dear?

SKYE:  What turns me on in the dark world?

LW:  Yeah…. In the fetish arena, so to speak.

SKYE:  I, myself, enjoy being tied up. I enjoy being blind folded and not knowing what surprises are around the corner for me.

LW:  Umm hmmm….

SKYE:  I like being aggressive, pulled by the hair, bent over and smacked in the ass. I love the deep groaning. I love the purring. The commands, I’m a very, very sexual being.

LW:  When Alex and I got married, which we are officially married, we went to the Gauntlet and got pierced. So, Alex has a piercing right through above her clit so that it has a diamond on the ring and the diamond falls on the clit. So even in the dark I can find it. (combinded laughs). I have a piercing on my scrotum not on my penis because I do too much sex stuff, and that’s just an open porthole. I’d be silly like that.

SKYE:  Right.

LW:  But I do have one in my scrotum. And as I was getting pierced, I had the artist before me doing his thing, he’s got his hand on my penis and my ball sack where he wants it so he can do his thing. And Alex is sitting right behind him in a short skirt, playing with her pussy, after she had just been pierced, and there’s me trying not to get my dick hard in this guy’s hand as he’s piercing me. (combined laughs).

SKYE:  Oh excellent!

LW:  It was a wonderful moment!

SKYE:  One piercing led to quite a few down in that area for me. So I know the piercing she has, that you can indeed find it. I ended up with that one too.

LW:  Alex and I practice a very open relationship. We’re sex surrogates and fully supportive of each other in that area. Prior to that, we were both porn stars and fully supportive of each other in that area. So we have gone through all kinds of wild group sex encounters. –Gone away to swing clubs for the week. We have a hotel in Florida that we go down to that our friend owns. It’s a naked hotel, clothing optional. We go there and just fuck all week long.

SKYE:  Oh fantastic! (laughs)

LW:  Every time Alex and I go to a scene it’s never the same. Sometimes she’ll want a lot of attention. Sometimes I’ll want a lot of attention. Sometimes neither of us will want attention, and we’ll sit off in a corner and watch. I will tell you that being around other people on a sexual level like that it’s energizing in so many ways. On a sexual level when you’re in that environment there’s so much sex around you and energy, it’s almost impossible not to keep your dick hard all the time.

SKYE:  (laughs) Right….

LW:  Really, when we go out to a swinger’s club, and they don’t start until late, so maybe from 12:30 to 5:00 in the morning my dick is hard.

SKYE:  Oh….. Good for you!

LW:  I’m not a Viagra user my dear. I don’t touch the stuff. I think it’s bad for you.

SKYE:  Bad form, bad form, right?

LW:  It’s bad form. Because, let’s just say as long as you don’t need it, you should avoid it. I think there’s so much more to sexuality than just a hard penis. People are really just missing the point with Viagra. It was meant for people like the gentleman I mentioned earlier who hasn’t had sex their entire life. And then when he took it at sixty he was able to successfully have an erection and intercourse. But you know in the adult industry it used to be that there was only a handful of guys to work and perform, and you saw them all the time in the adult videos. Now it’s so different, any cute Calvin Klein guy that comes on set takes a dose of Viagra and suddenly he’s a stud.

SKYE:  Oh jeez.

LW:  So we’re all kind of proud, the guys that did make it in the industry pre-Viagra. And if any of them are reading this, I commend you guys.

SKYE:  Exactly. Well this is more fun than I thought it would be.

LW:  Yeah, always the first step that’s the hardest.

SKYE:  I’ve got a little word game… answer each off the top of your head. No holds barred.

LW:  Ok. I’m game.

SKYE:  What side of the bed do you sleep on?

LW:  The one closest to the door.

SKYE:  Ok. Top five…

LW:  Do you understand that answer?

SKYE:  Yes, I do.

LW:  Know why?

SKYE:  Because you better look… Because you’ve got to look as good leaving as you do coming in.

LW:  No.

SKYE:  (laughs)

LW:  It’s much simpler than that. When I was a young boy, my mother taught me the man always sleeps closest to the door to protect the home from intruders.

SKYE:  Oh really?

LW:  Yeah.

SKYE:  Oh, that’s nice.

LW:  So I would sleep closest to the door. Doesn’t matter if it’s left or right.

SKYE:  I like that.

LW:  That’s the truth.

SKYE:  I like that. Top five girls to seduce.

LW:  Hmmm… well.. Raquel Darrian. Cameron Diaz.

SKYE:  Oh yeah. I’m with you there.

LW:  Ummm let’s see… who else? Demi Moore, just to throw in the older girl. Ummmm wow, I don’t fantasize….in the old days I could’ve told you a whole list of people, but I don’t fantasize all that much anymore.

SKYE:  June Cleaver or Betty Page?

LW:  June Cleaver, of course.

SKYE:  Hmmmm…

LW:  Yeah, Leave it to Beaver, baby.

SKYE:  Hard and fast, or short and long.

LW:  Short and long.

SKYE:  Ok. Favourite sex toy or apparatus.

LW:  Hmmm…for me, or for someone else?

SKYE:  Doesn’t matter…What is your favourite sex toy?

LW:  Let’s say the Sybian.

SKYE:  Briefs, boxers, thongs or commando?

LW:  None.

SKYE:  So that’d be commando right?

LW:  Okay.

SKYE:  Practical joker, or serious, serious boy?

LW:  Oh, serious.

SKYE:  Young and perky or mature and horny?

LW:  Oh for me? Mature and horny.

SKYE:  Oh good for you. Good answers! Yay!
(combined laughs). That was awesome.

LW:  Well, thank you.

SKYE:  So what new and spectacular adventures are you going to be sharing with us in the remainder of 2011?

LW:  Well technology seems to rule the day as of late, and that’s a wonderful thing for me because I’ve been planning for it for a long, long time. I built a video theatre where you can download my videos from Fallen Angel TV. I built it a couple of years ago. It’s been fun and profitable. Operating, functioning..doing all the things it needed to. But now I can go back and take media that I should have gotten years ago that no one has really seen in its pristine form. I can output that now as an HD product.

SKYE:  Oh, okay.

LW:  And some of the new Kodak’s that are available to us, particularly the H2 Kodak will now enable me to deliver HD media via the internet. So that’s what I’ve been up to.

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SKYE: I’d like to thank you from the bottom of my silk soaked panties for taking the time to do this interview. I must admit I am slightly turned on by the notion that I get you here and now answering questions; I am so eager to hear the answers to. I’ve read other interviews you’ve done, and I promise you my questions will be a tad more uncensored. I welcome dirty banter, sexual harassment, and my own questions turned back on you from time to time.

LUC WYLDER: Sounds wonderful….Before you begin, I know this is one of your first interviews. First we have to do this huge scintillated introduction, which I’m about to do for you.

SKYE: Excellent!

LW: So this is Luc Wylder being interviewed by Leona Skye, famous go-go dancer from the Toronto area, infamous for her time on the sex lines with all the hot and horny men out there for her, and now interviewer extraordinaire…. (collective applause) …Let me welcome you. Thank you very much, by the way, for inviting me for your article and feeling safe enough to use me. Is this really your first interview?

SKYE: Not entirely. I’d hosted another Q&A for my husband David Gammon with Ann Marie Rios. I’d done the interview simply because he was double booked. But they were his questions.

LW: Well that doesn’t surprise me, as I seem to gravitate towards virgins and first timers.
I did meet a virgin one time. We were in love with one another. We were very young. She had a certain sweetness about her. She wanted me to take her virginity, but I was just messing with her. You know what I mean?

SKYE: Right….

LW: So I didn’t do it.

SKYE: Oh good for you.

LW: I told her I couldn’t do it. I said it was something that you have to remember for the rest of your life. It’s somebody that you really love and are committed to. And I’m just making out.

SKYE: Right….

LW: So I’m just…. It was my only shot, though. I turned down the only shot ever.

SKYE: Oh jeez.

LW: (laughs)

SKYE: I was such the wild child. I’ve got a plethora of virgins under my belt. It was awful!

LW: Uh huh….

SKYE: I had way too much fun.

LW: I understand. But I will tell you. Are you aware that we’ve begun, my wife Alexandra Silk and I, being trained as sex surrogates, also known as sensate focus surrogates?

SKYE: David was definitely saying something about that. He said he was speaking with your wife the other day, and she’d brought up the topic about premature ejaculation.

LW: Right….

SKYE: She’s said that it just stopped. It was not elaborated on or anything like that. So all of a sudden here I am quizzing David, what exactly can be done for premature ejaculation? How can it help? What exactly is it that you and your wife do as sexual therapists to enhance-or information-or advise is given in the process that you provide to these people that need your help?

LW: The first thing I should say is we are both in our internship.

SKYE: Ok…

LW: We’re still students of the craft. So I don’t claim to be an expert, yet. Beyond that there are various means of working with them. On the male level, we work with a lot of premature ejaculators, also men with erectile dysfunction, but we’re working with people on the outside, normal scope of human behaviour. We work with people who are so out of touch with human contact that you can’t even touch them, much less than in a sexual manner. In a nutshell, what we try to do is get them to leave all their past histories behind, their religion, their culture, their personal experiences. We try to bring them into the “here and now.’ We focus very much on the physical stimuli-sensation of touch. We also start a very slow and systematic and defined method, so that people are always comfortable. People are always aware of what boundries are approached, and where our boundaries are drawn.

SKYE: Yes….

LW: It’s an amazing thing, because having been in the sex industry for as long as I have been, we always eroticized sex. This is just the opposite. As sex therapists or surrogates, we don’t dress up, or we’re not wearing erotic clothing. I’m not dressed up like a male Dom, or full leather and a black hat. It’s totally the opposite. We try to get away from eroticizing about sex, and bring people into the physical sensations. It’s amazing when you start doing it. The work-with yourself. You start realizing and really thinking about what feels good, not what someone else is telling you feels good, or forcing you to assume what feels good. This is authentic.

SKYE: Hmmmm….

LW: And we feel very privileged and honoured to do this kind of work. I mean, we change people’s lives with it. Really.

Alex is working with a fifty year old virgin, male. There are many women…. …have a client that is a fifty year old widow who is still a virgin.

SKYE: Wow!

LW: So the impact you can have on these people’s lives is tremendous. Just as a side note, many years ago, when Viagara first came onto the market, we were introduced to a gentleman who had never successfully had sexual relations with anyone until it came out.

SKYE: Wow!

LW: Can you imagine that? And he was in his sixties.

SKYE: Jeepers….

LW: Could you imagine going through your whole life never having good sex, then suddenly someone pops a drug in your mouth and you’ve got a hard on and you’re bangin’?

SKYE: Exactly!

LW: (laughs….)

SKYE: Holy smokes!

LW: Yeah so I don’t know…. It’s kind of an impact that we’ve had on other lives. It’s really rewarding.

SKYE: Sounds like it would be. Sounds very interesting, how did you get involved with that?

LW: Everything I do is kind of evolutionary. From one step leads another. It goes all the way back to my early work in Manhattan, when I became the premier male Dom of the fetish scene in New York, and I was. Dozens and dozens of fetish box covers ( I was on) from different companies all over the east coast. I was the man. Part of the reason I was the man was because I was really intuitive, into other people and working with their bodies. I mean if I went through a list of women who I’ve worked with, it’s like right out of the pages of adult history. It’s all the big major stars back in those times. Girls that weren’t into fetish, and girls who were into fetish. They shipped them out to New York and kept them there for five days. We had to work with them. And everybody liked working with me. I knew what to do.

SKYE: Go on….

LW: I can’t really explain how or why. Because of my introduction into the sex world, I feel very in tuned with my own body. I’m somewhat of an intuit. I don’t mean psychic, just mean someone who picks up on other people’s moods, energy, or whatever you may want to call it. Know what I mean?

SKYE: Yes…..

To be continued…

 

 

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