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M/s — New toys

Thursday, March 4, 2010

Remember back in the beginning when I said I’m a pleasure slave? And I said that doesn’t mean I only serve in a sexual capacity? But I do serve in a sexual capacity. And often. More often than not, our sexual encounters are more about M than me, or even us. That’s [...]

M/s — How do we start?

Thursday, February 25, 2010

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There are a couple novice master/slave groups on a couple kink boards I frequent. A couple places where people who are just discovering their kinky side can ask any little question that pops into their head. And one of the most-asked questions is always, “How do we start?” The short answer is “Small.” as [...]

Orgasm Control

Thursday, February 18, 2010

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Orgasm control. Giving someone the right to tell you when, where, how and how many orgasms you can have. Doesn’t it sound horrid? It can be. Other times, it’s pretty friggin awesome. Like this morning. But I’ll get to that later. I don’t think M was originally going to take complete [...]

Romance in M/s

Thursday, February 11, 2010

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This morning, M turned to me and said, “And as effing usual, I won’t be able to get your Valentine’s Day present until after Valentine’s Day. Payday is Monday.” And I kind of blew him off. “It’s no biggie, really. So I’m reading this abstinence-only study they did in Pennsylvania…” Anything more would have [...]

A No Limits Slave?

Thursday, February 4, 2010

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I’m a “no limits slave”. There. I said it. Bring on the barrage of flaming and snark. There’s no such thing as a “no limits” slave, Rayne. Everyone has limits. You’re right. Everyone has limits. Everyone has lines they’d rather not cross. Things that completely squick them out or totally [...]

Fantasy vs Reality in M/s

Thursday, January 28, 2010

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People are often talking about the fantasy of consensual slavery versus the reality of it. They talk about how a lot of books – especially BDSM erotica – romanticize the subject and hide the painful parts. As I’ve mentioned before, a lot of M/s bloggers do, too. Almost as if they’re trying [...]

Slaves Have Personal Responsibility Too!

Thursday, January 21, 2010

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I’m feeling kind of ranty, today. That happens pretty often when I venture onto one of the few fetish sites I still belong to looking for a topic. It’s at least half the reason I don’t venture onto many fetish sites anymore. I always leave with a deeper understanding of ignorance and [...]

BDSM Relationship Advice for Newbies

Thursday, January 14, 2010

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We’ve been at this for the better part of seven years, and almost every year it’s had a different face. Before we decided to try on the couple face, I even had M convinced for a short while to just be my no-strings-attached fuck buddy! Our dynamic has resembled Gorean philosophy, traditional BDSM, some [...]

The Role of Sex in an M/s Relationship

Thursday, January 7, 2010

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A relationship must be built on something firmer than lust. It’s not all about sex. 24/7 doesn’t mean all sex, all the time. There’s no such thing as a 24/7 scene. Things I’m sure any BDSM newbie (or long-time kinkster) has heard (or said) at some point in their kink career. Hell, I’ve even recited them by rote, [...]

The Best Christmas Ever

Thursday, December 24, 2009

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Every year, we handle Christmas a little differently. Finances change. Our relationship changes. What works with regard to our dynamic changes. So it’s only natural that how we approach the holiday of family time and gift giving and money spending changes with them. Last year, we didn’t celebrate at all. Unless [...]

Do Slaves Deserve Love?

Thursday, December 17, 2009

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Love. Does it exist in master and slave relationships like ours? Should it? How does it manifest? And what happens if it goes away? These are all questions submissives interested in being owned ask on a constant basis. How can our owners love us and treat us as brutally as some of them do? [...]

Love and Care in M/s (or, he’s not some heartless bastard)

Thursday, December 10, 2009

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A few years ago, I was babbling incessantly about how I wanted birds. Lots and lots of them. Every type of bird we could possibly own. They’ve got so much personality. They’re sweet and lovable (mostly). They’re really not that expensive to keep alive if they’re healthy. And most [...]

My BFF Lance

Thursday, December 3, 2009

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When Carrie mentioned World AIDS Day and asked if I’d write about the impact of HIV and AIDS on my life, I thought, “They haven’t really had much of an impact on my life.” I’ve only ever had friends who had friends who were sick. I’ve been extremely fortunate. One of the parts I [...]

A Master and Slave Thanksgiving

Thursday, November 26, 2009

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Yesterday, we got up around 11am. I stumbled out of bed made bacon, eggs over easy, toast and coffee. And I noted that our apartment always smells like a diner in the morning for the seventy-three thousandth time. I sat at my computer for a while, bumbling around on Twitter and StumbleUpon in an [...]

The Great Debate: Submissive vs. Slave

Thursday, November 19, 2009

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The Great (Internet BDSM Community) Debate: Submissive versus slave. What’s the difference? Are they different? Is one better than the other? Something that has often plagued me is the waging war between the two. The constant competition. The seemingly desperate need to come out on top. Slaves will prance around in their [...]

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Slaves Have Personal Responsibility Too!

BDSM Relationship Advice for Newbies

The Role of Sex in an M/s Relationship

The Best Christmas Ever

Do Slaves Deserve Love?

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