Eden Cafe

Inspired by Newme21’s recent post Life at 50: My Sexual Bucket List, I’ve decided to make my own list. While it’s not really a bucket list, it is kind of like those lists your 2nd grade teacher made you write about your 5 main goals in life. You know, the ones where you said you wanted to be an astronaut – but only if your teacher had been someone like Tristan Taormino instead of Mrs. Thomas.

#1. I’d like to get more anal toys
Up until now I’ve just been experimenting with fingers and a couple of plugs, but I’d really like to expand my collection to include more plugs and other types of anal toys like some of Fun Factory’s silicone beads. My goal is to end up with a collection of anal toys that rivals my toys for vaginal use.

#2. Be a spreader of good news
I want to inform people, at least my close friends, about the pleasure involved in anal . I want to encourage them to talk to their partners and see if anal play is something they would like to try. I know that there are many people who are still under the impression that anal sex is only going to be painful and dirty, much as I was before I starting reading more about the topic. I’d like to help break people out of that stereotype as much as I can.

#3. Experience an anal orgasm
As someone who only recently (as in yesterday) figured out how to squirt and have an orgasm that isn’t fully clitoral, I know learning to have an anal orgasm is going to be a long and frustrating road, but I’m willing to travel it. And accomplishing this also leads me on to my next goal which is. . .

#4. Have anal sex with my partner
Even though I currently play with toys, I have not yet been able to have anal sex with my partner and it’s something I would really like to do. Not only is my partner chomping at the bit to fuck my ass, but I would feel accomplished in being in tune with my body and being able to train myself to have anal sex pleasurably.

#5. Experience double penetration
I’ll admit it, I’ve always been incredibly turned on by DP in porn films. I have tried having vaginal sex with a butt plug in, but I don’t think it would be quite the same experience as having my partner and a dildo at the same time. Obviously this is the biggest thing on my list, but I still think it is doable.

What are your 5 main aspirations for your sexuality? This list is definitely not and end-all be-all list. I hope to keep my list growing, expanding and evolving in to more detail as I learn more and experience more.