So ladies, what do you like? Do you like it rubbed, pressed, suckled, kissed, blown on, or bitten? Or are you one of the women who can’t stand to have it touched at all? I’m talking about the female clitoris, of course, and we all like it different ways. Unfortunately, our partners (especially men) don’t always know which way we like it right off the bat.

The female clitoris can be found at the top middle (12:00) region of the vulva. It is covered either somewhat, or fully by the clitoral hood. The clitoral hood is a protective flap of skin that protects the sensitive “Glans clitoris” or the tip of the clitoris. Just like the Glans of a male’s penis, the Glans of the clitoris is also very sensitive. Unlike a man’s penis, the clitoris was designed solely for female pleasure. As a matter of fact, only 30% of women can orgasm without clitoral stimulation. That’s why it is so important to become familiar with the clitoris.

The clitoris is packed with more than 8,000 nerve endings… WOW! Can you believe that? So you can imagine it’s quite sensitive – Better yet, you know it’s VERY sensitive. A lot of the times it’s too sensitive to touch if you don’t do it correctly. A good way to get around that is to make sure your gal is very aroused before going in for a lick.

Just as the penis becomes erect with increased blood flow, the clitoris does the same. Why? The clitoris is what the penis used to be! In utero, we all started out as girls until boys’ bodies matured, turning their clitoris into a penis.

Tip #1: Spend a lot of time on everywhere but the clitoris, in order to correctly stimulate the clitoris. Make sure your female is warmed up and ready for the intense pleasure you are (hopefully) about to give her!

This may be something not all women even know; usually, the entire clitoris isn’t sensitive. Sometimes only 25% of the clitoris is sensitive, and sometimes only 75% of the clitoris is sensitive, and it ranges from female to female. This is all determined during development in the womb, and it is completely normal.

Tip #2: Find out which portion of your gal’s clitoris is most sensitive in order to bring her to an orgasm. If she doesn’t know, slowly work your tongue in circles and ask her to tell you when you hit that particular spot.

The visible area of the clitoris (the glans, which looks like a pea) is not the only region that is sensitive. Did you know the clitoris actually extends deep underneath the skin of the vulva, even where you cannot see it? It extends in a wish-bone shape, consisting of the Corpus cavernosum and the Crus clitoris, as shown below.

So what does all this jibber jabber mean? It means that there are other areas and other ways to stimulate the clitoris, than just licking, sucking, or rubbing the Glans clitoris itself. Rubbing the areas around the inner labia works very well – and you can add plenty of pressures as these areas are usually harder to stimulate. But once stimulated, it can greatly increase the pleasure felt on the Glans clitoris, and even other areas of the vagina.

Tip #3: Don’t forget about the rest of the clitoris, hidden underneath the skin of the inner vulva.

Like I mentioned above, some women just can’t stand to have their clitoris directly stimulated in any way. Why? They are probably women with a rather large sensitive portions (75% and up). So you may be wondering, “How the hell do I give her a good fix if I can’t even touch it?!”. Well, DON’T touch it… but touch everything else. Some women enjoy grinding up against the legs of their partners, rocking back and forth against a chair, or using their knuckles to apply pressure and rub their outer labia.

All of the masturbation methods above add slight, indirect, but powerful stimulation to the clitoris. As they rub or apply pressure to their outer labia, the labia gently rub against the clitoris making for an explosive orgasm.

Tip #4: Take the “pressure” off her hands and do it yourself. Using your knuckles, apply firm but somewhat gentle pressure to their vulva without going between the outer labia. If the female has very short, open labia, try rubbing the upper vulva (where the pubic hair grows). Ask your partner if she’d like you to go harder, move faster. Try up and down movements, side-to-side movements, or whatever she’d like. If this doesn’t work, you can always let her grind against your thigh… which is always pretty sexy to watch!

Your girl may say something like “It doesn’t hurt when I do it… Just when you do it”. A statement like that may leave you puzzled, wondering what you’re doing wrong. If you’re a man, it could be those rough “man hands”. It might be time for a manicure (minus the nail polish!) – a little trimming of the nails (not biting, which leaves some painfully jagged edges) and some baby soft hands makes for a pain-free night of pleasure. You may also want to watch the way she pleases herself, because you could be doing it wrong.

Tip #5 & 6 : Get rid of those man hands! Swallow your pride and get your ass down to the nearest salon. Get those nails clipped short, filed to perfection, and remove the painful calluses from your hands before you kill someone with those things! (And don’t forget the lotion!) Then, when you get home, watch the way she pleases herself, and then give it a try on your own. Practice makes for perfection.

Are you well lubricated when you stimulate her? Whether it’s with your tongue, or with your hands, lubrication is a must. If it’s too dry, there’s too much drag which can be extremely painful and may leave the poor girl limping the next day in pain. There are several oral sex lubricants to choose from, so you don’t have that awful aftertaste in your mouth that you might get from a regular sex lubricant. However, if you are using your hands, you might want to consider a very thick, slippery lubricant. One that I have found helpful for the occasion is Maximus.

Tip #7: Make sure you are lubricated at all times!

So maybe she just isn’t sensitive. She’s not enjoying ANYTHING you do. Not because it hurts, or feels uncomfortable… because she simply can’t feel a damn thing. Well, before you give up and move on to the G-Spot, you can always try sexual enhancing gels/ lubricants. There’s a wide variety to choose from on EdenFantasys and you’re bound to find the one for you. These gels contain all sorts of magical potions and ingredients to help make the clitoris more sensitive.

Tip #8: If she can’t feel anything, try an enhancing gel or lubricant designed specifically for females or the clitoris.

There’s no way around it – the clitoris is hands down, the most hard-to-please area of the female body. It’s what makes the female body so sophisticated! Nevertheless, don’t give up! Follow these tips and you’re bound to find out just what it is that makes her toes curl! Good luck!