“Why, yes. He is my Daddy.”

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About: Well, what to say about me? I’m a college student and just beginning to explore both my sexuality and kinky side. Don’t believe me? Well, you should! I go by the online moniker “Vieux Carre” for two reasons. One of those reasons is that I grew up in New Orleans and could never truly leave this city even though I have plans to move in the next year and a half. Secondly, I thought it would be cool to name myself after a freeway exit on the way to school one day. I’m odd and quirky but I’m fun and loving. At least that’s what my man tells me. That’s all I can think of at the moment. I’m sure I can edit this little bio as I see fit in the futureSee Authors Posts (20)

Every relationship, whether vanilla or otherwise, has a certain dynamic. The relationships of the 1950’s where the man is the traditional head of household and the woman is the stay at home June Cleaver is somewhat dead. Relationships have evolved greatly since then and this day and age they astound me. I have always aspired to be the housewife down the road one day after I have worked in my career field long enough to work from home. I want to provide for my partner and leave him wanting for nothing as much as humanly possible. After all, I am not a robot.
Now, the dynamic of my relationship is slightly different. I am in a polyamorous relationship, first and foremost, with my lover. He and I also have a certain aspect of kink in our relationship that we are exploring. We have been together for a short while but have discovered our roles in each other’s life. He is very much a Daddy to my little girl that I have deep down inside of me.
What does this all mean, exactly? I never really grew up with a father. I have craved the nurture and care that a father gives to his little girl and I have that fulfilled with my lover. Don’t confuse this with people who enjoy acting as babies and wearing diapers. That’s a bit too extreme for me. Our relationship is very much on the mental side as opposed to the physical side. He is my Daddy in regards to how he treats and handles certain situations with me. He is also there for me when I need someone and feel as though my entire world is crashing down.
The other dynamic we have to our relationship is polyamory. Polyamory is definitely not for everyone and I was one of the naysayers who believed that I could never EVER be happy in this type of relationship. I proved myself wrong. I have found absolute bliss in being where I am. Our relationship is wonderful and built upon trust and open communication. His wife has encouraged our relationship, as she and I have been friends for well over a year now, and has opened up her home, life, and husband to me. The three of us go on outings together, see movies, spend time together, and do general vanilla things. She and I spend time together and know each other on a much more personal level. He and I have our alone time as well. He gives equal attention to both of us without making it seem as though it is a chore. Our dynamic only works because we are considerate, open and honest, and we communicate thoroughly. Then again, that’s what any relationship takes. Ours just involves bigger love.
Like I stated above, every relationship is different. Relationships are kind of like a Baskin Robin’s. There are many flavors to choose from and the possibilities are endless for enjoyment. Savor the moments in any relationship you enter into and explore things that you may not be completely open to. I did and my eyes are opened now to a world I could never have imagined existed; a world of happiness. Polyamory works for us and is only one of many dynamics that relationships can have. You don’t have to agree with the way I live my life, but I wanted to give insight into a dynamic that maybe some have never really learned about.
Enjoy life and the relationships you form. The only way to truly live is to explore, thrive, learn, grow, and experience.